Thanks for the meal

[John4433]

How often does your partner thank you at the end of a meal or snack that you have prepared?

a) after every meal
b) sometimes
c) rarely
d) never

How does this affect your relationship?

Pretty often. He is very grateful that I cook for him as he doesn't really like cooking. I always thank him for washing up etc afterwards because I hate doing that bit. We generally thank each other a lot. Little kindnesses like that can go a long way in a relationship.

My exH never said thank you any of the thousand things I did for him, just took me totally for granted. It's why he is an ex.

Rarely but after 50 plus years I am used to it. If he comments on the food it means it’s really good and if he tells me I look good it means I look stunning,(haha). All I can say is that he comments so rarely on anything that when he does I have to take notice. So if he ever says he doesn’t like an outfit , off it comes and out it goes.

Every time.

Hardly ever, one of the many reasons I left him.

Pretty much every dinner and I thank him if he cooks dinner.

Always ... a bit like Apollo we do tend to thank each other a lot ... but we both do customer service type jobs so perhaps we are just so used to speaking politely and courteously all the time .

Never, but that is because he does virtually all the cooking. I always thank him.

Almost everytime, as do my kids.

We would both thank each other every time. It's just kind of automatic once we've finished.

Sometimes. I think you don't always have to say 'thank you' to express your appreciation though. I don't say thank you every time dh takes the bins out. It's just part of the things we do because we're a team and we want things to be running smoothly. But I do say thank you when it's been a rough day and I really appreciate him doing it and me not having to think about it. Similarly, he would say thank you when he knows I really need to hear it. I think in a solid relationship though it's largely implied in how you treat each other and I don't need to hear it constantly. But then dh isn't a twat.

B. It has no effect. Maybe I'm well trained .

We don’t really thank each other, other than automatic thank you when given a plate etc but will compliment a good meal or when the other has worked hard at a house job.

Every time, even if he doesn't like it, because he is polite and nice.

Always unless he’s cooked.

Why are you asking?

Depends on context, as we usually cook and clear up together (or whoever doesn’t is doing other housework / childcare.) if one of us has cooked for the other who has been working late, unwell/particularly tired etc, then we always say thank you. More generally, not every time.

We share cooking and do tend to say thanks, pass comment on a meal.

Apparently my chocolate brownie, last one in the freezer, mostly crumbs, was a bloody good mix with the pistachio ice cream 😁

We both thank each other depending on who’s made it before we start eating, so as you set the plate down in front, then at the end we tend to comment on what we liked about it/what we’d do next time/try this again etc! And get the toddler to thank whichever parent cooked it.

For cooking? I don't know how much we say thank you to each other--it's assumed when we say how delicious it is. I guess we only say thank you when it's not that delicious, but we want to express our appreciation!

Every time.

It's an automatic thing in our house - whoever didn't cook, cleans up. So if I cooked, DH would automatically say 'thanks for dinner' as he stood up to clear the table.

Always. Every cup of coffee, every meal (that I’ve cooked). It’s not sexy or exciting but I strongly believe please, thank you, need anything from the shop are the key to a happy marriage. Start taking each other for granted and it goes to crap.

Always. And we always tell each other how lovely the meal was. We're foodies, so probably go a bit overboard.
I know someone whose partner never says thank you. She has to drag it out of him, then he responds with a shrug, it was ok....and she is a fantastic cook. It drives me mad.

Hubby thanks me everytime I cook .. it's nice to feel appreciated.

He does most of the cooking, I always either thank him or make obviously appreciative noises or comments when he brings it out. He also thanks me when I cook. It's just showing respect and appreciation.

Every single time without fail, after many many years of marriage.