Thanks for the meal

[John4433]

How often does your partner thank you at the end of a meal or snack that you have prepared?

a) after every meal
b) sometimes
c) rarely
d) never

How does this affect your relationship?

Every time. As I do him.

Everyone is expected to say thank you when a plate is put in front of them.

We thank each other after every meal. I wouldn't want it any other way as it means we are showing the other we appreciate it.

I normally have to ask DH if the food is okay, and he will then say "yes thanks". He never cooks for me, but if he did I would thank him. It does make me feel unappreciated and like it's just become expected of me now.

Always. It's just basic manners

We always thank eachother for cooking. And cleaning up. Feel very much like a team.

almost never, add to that all the brewing up I do (99.9% of all of them) without thanks and it gets to feel like you're taken for granted, like a skivvy.

A. It's one of the reasons I love him. And we encourage our son to say it after every meal too. It's so disrespectful not to and really smacks of male entitlement.

Mine does sweet FA round the house (except for DIY and cooking maybe twice a month) but he always says thanks for dinner and compliments my cooking etc so that softens the blow a bit, at least I know he’s grateful even though I think I’d rather less culinary compliments and maybe he run the hoover round once in a while

I cook every night. He thanks me every night. So do the kids. It's polite.

A. Every time I make him something. Whether it's a drink, meal or snack.

I do the same.

Every time, and I thank him
Even if it's a sandwich it's a nice thing to do for someone else

We always thank each other, DS does too.

Rarely, but then again i was a sahp for a long time and just started working part time. I dont thank him every day to go to work and support the family, so i guess its even. Doesnt affect our relationship at all. I know he appreciates everything i do even if he doesnt thank me every day for it and its the same the other way around.

We always thank whoever has cooked after a meal. This includes our adult children. We usually thank whoever’s cleared up/washed up too. I thought it was just basic politeness.

Every time after a meal for the other person who has prepared it.

When I lived at home it was ‘thank you’ as the plate went down on the table and ‘thank you’ as the meal was finished

Every time. He sometimes says it when he has cooked and I just chopped something or served up!

Pretty much always, but at the start of the meal. It's always literally a thanks for doing the cooking. Growing up we always said thank you at the end of the meal, often with a compliment. I miss getting complements, those are much rarer than thanks now. I know it could be worse though.

99% of the time.

Almost every time, we thank each other a lot for making drinks fetching snacks and although we tend to do whatever household task needs doing rather than having set tasks and when were both home we tend to do things together but we still sometimes say thanks for doing xyz.

Mine does most of the cooking, I always say thank you.

DP - every time

ExH - never. And he lied about that. If I ever asked why he hadn't said thank you, he'd say 'I did' when he blatantly hadn't. Such a little man, despite his physical size.

We all thank each other for meals. I am the main cook, and DC and DH will make a point of telling me what a lovely meal it was and thank me. We will thank whoever has cooked.

I make a point of thanking the DC for doing chores too, I feel it's important everyone feels loved and valued and that their contribution to the household is noticed and appreciated.

Every time I cook, the kids do too. I make a point of making sure we say thank you to who ever prepared food for us, it’s a habit the kids and DH have been trained to do now.

Every single time, even if I've just made toast or ordered a takeaway.

We always say thank you even if it's just a cup of coffee or frozen pizza. It's basic manners. We've been together for over ten years and we typically share the cooking. I'll find the recipe and prep everything, he deals with the oven.