Thanks for the meal

[John4433]

How often does your partner thank you at the end of a meal or snack that you have prepared?

a) after every meal
b) sometimes
c) rarely
d) never

How does this affect your relationship?

Oh and of course my children do too.
Every time.
Basic courtesy.

[quote PegasusReturns]@hamsterchump exactly. And if my DC don’t say thank you they are pulled up on it immediately.

In fact I think we say thank you three times:

At the beginning of the meal when handed a plate. Just “thanks” or “thanks looks great”.

In the middle of the meal “this is lovely thank you” or the “chicken is really tasty”.

At the end of dinner “thanks for dinner”.

I don’t feel like we’re a particularly effusive family but I had no idea this wasn’t absolutely standard.[/quote]
This would be the norm here too.

I might ask if they liked something if it was new.

This cook expects feedback!

Yeah, we always thank each other. Although my cooking can be quite hilariously bad sometimes, so there can be an element of humour to his gratitude too. (Though he wouldn’t suggest something was awful unless I had already made it clear I knew it was).

He once ate an entire plate of an inedibly hot curry I had made, although I kept telling him
he didn’t have to. I was extremely touched by this.

He will sometimes take leftovers of stuff I have made for lunch, and will thank me again when he has had it.

@PegasusReturns I think it's just one of those things you do without thinking, we also do at least one "mmm this is really nice, thanks" too and then thank whoever takes plates etc and whoever washes up. We just do it automatically, it doesn't take any effort, I also just say thanks if OH gets me a drink or a chewing gum or hands me the phone or anything, I can't believe people don't really! Do some of you really put down cups of tea etc in front of family members to no response? That's so rude and if it were a child I'd be reminding them of that fact in no uncertain terms! Adults I'd just be shocked and judge them harshly and stop doing stuff for them. It takes no time to say thanks and makes for a much nicer home atmosphere imo and also makes you both more keen to go out of your way to help or please the other which I think is really important.

Every single time. And he's' taught DS to do the same. Because it's polite to thank someone for doing something for you.

He thanks me after every meal and I thank him too. I wouldn’t be impressed if he didn’t say thank you after I’ve slaved over a nice meal

Pretty much every time, and when he cooks I do the same.

Not usually, I normally prompt and he will. He almost never cooks and eats whatever is put in front of him without complaint, be it cordon bleu standard or heated up leftovers.
Training the kids up to acknowledge when they have a meal cooked for them.

Every time

We always thank each other, it's not like it costs anything.

As to how it affects our relationship, it's not the kind of thing in and of itself that I'd be too bothered about either way, but it's indicative of the general way in which we treat each other.

Not after every meal but both DP and DSS often thank me after a meal.

DH makes nearly all meals, I always try to make a point of remembering to thank him - want to say I always do but I'm not perfect.

When the food hasn't been nice I still thank him because he goes to the effort of shopping and cooking and it's so bloody tedious.

Always, kids too and me if I am ever fortunate to have a meal cooked for me.

Always say Thankyou after every snack and meal he makes. Whatever is done for me I say thanks

Normally when I put it in front of him but not that often at the end. My children - he’s not their dad - have been drilled to say thank you at the beginning and end of a meal so I do expect it but mainly because I’m used to hearing it from them! If he really likes something I’ve made he comments “that was really nice” which makes me suspect he doesn’t enjoy most of my cooking as much, but I do all of it so he doesn’t have much choice!

A - always and that’s with every partner I’ve been with. TBH if they didn’t say thank you after I’d cooked them a meal it would probably be their last one!
My 17 yr old son says thanks too after every time I make him something.

We're like @AnneLovesGilbert, always thanking each other for every cup of tea or any little kindness. I say thank you when he does my washing. I don't say thank you for vacuuming but I do acknowledge it as does he when I clean the bathroom.

My parents bickered all the time; my marriage is so different. I do think these little kindnesses help a marriage. Sure, sometimes I'd like to just make myself a drink and I'm sure he's the same but we always offer.

I'm sorry that your husband doesn't thank you, OP. All the DC thank whoever's made the meal.

All the time and not just for meals. If one lesson has come out of my miserable ex marriage it is that being taken for granted is a disease that eats away at a relationship. I don't remember one compliment from my ex husband about anything in all the time we were together.

Always, and vice versa, DC have been brought up to do the same. I think it's important, basic manners and appreciation for what we do for each other and I think it stops us taking each other for granted.