Don’t mention the jasmine!

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Can’t believe I’m onto my third thread.

Previous one here

Been packing the car to go to the tip. It’s rammed! Cat has been out for the first time and thankfully returned.

Greatly enjoyed my walks this weekend. Got an 8 miler in yesterday but the best part was coming back, lighting the fire and getting into a hot bath. Had a zoom with friends last night, touch too much red wine, but it was so much fun.

You’re all right re the petition. It doesn’t matter, he’s just jackbooting. Someone asked what I’d put in, sorry but I’m not comfortable sharing that at present, been advised to keep it to myself whilst it’s ongoing.

Geller is, however, incredulous that I’m not willing to carry on sharing Amazon Prime and Music Unlimited.

The weighted blankets have arrived so I’m just about to go sort out the laundry and the girls run. Been enjoying Radio 2’s musical weekend, but I can’t understand how Steve Wright is still on.

Tip run, then they come back. Roast chicken with bread sauce and roast gnocchi and board games this afternoon in front of the fire I think. Sounds like he’s been running them ragged, lots of walks etc which is good as means I don’t need to!

How’s everyone else spending their Sunday?

I honestly don’t know when his embarrassment gland will start working.

He's messaged 3 of your friends asking to borrow a potato masher??? That's.... confident.

I like the idea of telling him you have plans for the masher on Monday evening. No mention of potatoes, just plans.

Tell him to fork off, be less of an ash-hole and that you are sick of his bull-shirt.

Why hasn't he set himself up with Amazon Prime

Because he would have to pay for it, probably quite happy for Polly to pay for it and him the benefit from it.

I really hope one of your friends just text back "Either use a fork or go to bloody Tesco's".

@Lougle

He's messaged 3 of your friends asking to borrow a potato masher??? That's.... confident.

He's looking for someone (anyone) to do the wife-work which OP has so undutifully withdrawn from. Tut! Tut! @StuckInPollyannaMode! 🤣🌹

I wonder if he has a long list of what he needs and is waiting to go to IKEA because it's the cheap option or he has a designer one on order from somewhere?

I’ve been crying with laughter on the MondayMash Gate. (“I have Plans for it on Monday evening 🤣🤣)

My STBX (Captain of Industry, natch) felt an Amazon Prime account was far to beneath him, so his PA held the account instead.

Since moving out, I’ve had calls regarding loo roll, fuse boards, printer paper, garden implements, where to switch the boiler off, and cooking techniques. I only respond to house related enquiries as it’s still half mine.
The rest he can go Google.

I just had an embarrassed call from One of the Three.

She’d had a couple of glasses last night and wanted to text back F off but didn’t.

Instead she texted back

Sorry, I’ve lost mine so I’ve had to borrow Pollys!

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

OMG priceless

Oh that’s just GOLD!!!

Oh that's a genius response! Perhaps it might give him the smallest clue that he's being ridiculous....(But I doubt it!)

OMG that is brilliant! Love your friend.

The DDs can buy him a potato masher for Fathers Day.

I bet he's bored shitless without you, so is looking for any excuse to make contact with you and your friends.

Hey, Geller... newsflash... nobody likes you.

His radar is just so off with what is socially appropriate eh. It’s so cringe. Some of my ILs are like this. Mate. Buy yourself a masher & some dignity.

Did you say ASD had been 100% ruled out for DD because you can see which side of the family she may have inherited it from!

Perhaps she scores highly on some areas but not all (therefore not ASD) but blimey it seems Gellar does too 😳

Doesn't see the point of friends but thinks others should run around after him. Fixated on doing something but not able to make it happen himself or compromise.

Polly you must have been bending yourself around him and his wants for years.

You have great friends- her response is hilarious

He's the gift that just keeps on giving!

haha, priceless, I would hope the friends will eventually respond,
"Gellar, you really need to stop asking other people to solve your problems"

Actually snorted with laughter at your friends response! That’s brilliant

@Mix56

haha, priceless, I would hope the friends will eventually respond, "Gellar, you really need to stop asking other people to solve your problems"

Gellar, you really need to stop asking other people to solve your problems compensate for your inadequacies.

Fixed it.

I do indeed have brilliant friends!that friend in particular was the Chief Gin Donator if you remember that incident.

Right, as ever, time moves on and I have a different problem for you to solve.

Picked the kids up tonight and had a nice tea etc etc. They had their standard 2 episodes of bloody shite Disney before bedtime.

Asked them to turn it off and come up for bed when it finished as I was taking a load of laundry up and they just LOST IT. Hit each other, screamed etc. Then DD2 threw her trousers at me having almost torn them getting them off violently. Then she was utterly ridiculous about wanting me to sit on her bed to go to sleep, even though we agreed previously that from the weekend although I would stay upstairs I wasn’t going to be in their room.

I ended up shouting at them and I feel terrible - I haven’t even had them back for 4 hours.

They have gone to bed with one story not two, a cuddle and a flea in their ear. I feel awful and like I’m the worst mum ever.

I was all resolved to be lovely and interested and loving and zen but noooo. How can I change my parenting style so I flare up less? I know we’re all going through a lot at the moment and I do usually keep my calm, but I want this to be a nice calm place to come back to, not a shouty one.

Today’s message from Geller:

Had to work fully today. So far adrift. Need to get some focus back on work.

I haven’t responded!!

I have, however, been agog at the whole Harry and Meghan stuff. Absolutely dreadful. On many levels.

Why is Gellar messaging you at all?? Why does he think you care what he has done??

When my girls were young, they really struggled with separation anxiety. We worked up a little routine where we would say 'Where is Mummy/Daddy going to be?' 'in your bedroom' 'Where is x going to be?' 'in my bedroom'. Over time, we moved downstairs, but even though they knew it, we still kept the goodnight routine that said those words.

I also find chatting while things are calm helps. DD3 used to get incredibly 'hangry' so when she was calm, we talked about it and we struck a deal that if I said "DD3 eat (or drink)" she had to eat/drink whatever I was giving her, because she was always past reason by that point.