Differing parenting approach, 2.5 year old

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I'm a bit concerned as a few people have said in rl that this isn't okay. I personally don't agree with dp approach but that didn't means it's nessisarily wrong.
I wfh start at just before 6 and finish 4.30 Mon to Wed and then 6am till 10. 30am Thursday Friday.
Ds goes to childminder at 9.30 Monday to Wed. Thursday Friday dp has him untill I take over at half ten. Dp works all Weekend.
We split it like this due to childcare costs.

The issue is dp won't get up with ds. Ds wakes at between 6.30 and 7.30. He takes ds into bed with him and put TV on for him and tried to nap. I'm already up and working. He won't get up before 9 despite having to leave at 9.25 to take ds to childminder. Ds has no drink or food from waking at 7 or a nappy change.
He then rushes about to feed ds, dress him and leave.

I don't think ds should not have a drink snack or. Clean nappy after 12 hours of sleep for several hours after waking up.
Is that normal? Dp says I'm being ridiculous and gets cross if I bring a drink or snack in for ds as he's trying to sleep.

Your husband thinks it's OK for your child to sit in a soaking wet nightime nappy for two hours in the morning? Like, he genuinely thinks it's healthy and reasonable for his son to sit in his own urine for two extra hours?

And you still want to be with this man?

Tbh I’d throw piss on the partner and see how long it takes for him to clean himself up.

Op this man is an embarrassment. I truly don’t know how you can allow him to be a part of your life. Your standards must be shot, because if anyone treated my child that way I’d kill them. There is just no way I’d ever allow my daughter to be out through that.