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I fancy the plumber. HELP!

557 replies

PawPatrol24 · 19/01/2021 22:06

Recently single 26 year old Mumma here.
This particular plumber has come over twice the past 2/3 months to help with various things around my rented place.

He is is absolutely stunning. In his 30's. Three children. Not with the mother, but no idea of any girlfriend. Lovely to my very chatty, curious 3yo (obviously having seen her when fixing up the place).

I am sure there is a little chemistry but I'm not sure if I'm projecting. Something in the way he mentioned me being a full-time Mum, the smile on his face as he left and mentioning he's not with the mother.

He's said he'd keep me updated with various bits that need doing. Everyone says to see if he followed through with this but I can't eat or sleep properly. I feel like a 16 year old girl again!
I don't wanna step on no ones toes, but I also don't want to waste an opportunity.

Advice?!

OP posts:
quarentini · 20/01/2021 11:47

He's not going to text back .
He's going to turn up for a coffee and a chat on his lunch hour instead 😀

Original poster
PawPatrol24 · 20/01/2021 11:56

@quarentini

He's not going to text back . He's going to turn up for a coffee and a chat on his lunch hour instead 😀
I mean that would be nice and all, but I look like shit right now. No bra, mismatched clothes. Greasy, unbrushed hair. I haven't brushed my teeth! XD
OP posts:
shamelessmcshame · 20/01/2021 12:00

Maybe it's his work phone and he doesn't work on Wednesdays

Jamesworks2hard · 20/01/2021 12:04

Press the trip switch button on the fusebox, text him to say the heating has gone off, then when he turns up and looks at the fusebox and he realises the trip has gone, you can act all coy!

MondeoFan · 20/01/2021 12:12

I'm hoping he hasn't read his text messages and has just got up and gone to his first job

Sundance2741 · 20/01/2021 12:12

Hope you get a response. Your post reminded me of a time many years (decades 😪) ago when I was staying at my mum's (not near where I lived) and the pipes burst. Plumber who came round was attractive and flirted with me the whole time, which was awkward in front of my mum! He was there ages as it was a long job.

I probably had a boyfriend at the time and certainly didn't live local to him but I find myself wishing I had pushed my luck back then..... You do have regrets when you get older!!!! Course, I didn't have MN to spur me on in those days!

cherrypop86 · 20/01/2021 12:15

Maybe there's a chance he's worried about losing his job if he's employed by the estate agents.

Givemeabreak88 · 20/01/2021 12:18

This reminds me of last summer when I had a gardener come over to do some work, he text me to ask me out after, I am single but he absolutely was not my type, so I never responded Blush so even if he is single it’s not a given though I reckon men are more likely to still go there even if they aren’t interested, so time will tell..

Original poster
PawPatrol24 · 20/01/2021 12:28

I love hearing all your stories! Totally makes my day coming on here and reading all your experiences too.

A good friend of mine feels the same way as a fair few of you and that he might be worried about losing his contract with the estate agents.

A male friend thinks he may not want to come over too eager.

All I know is...still no reply :)

OP posts:
seensome · 20/01/2021 12:40

He would of woke up and gone straight out to work without thinking of replying to texts, think there's a chance he'll reply this evening when he's home from work, fingers crossed for you that he's single and interested.

Mylittlepony374 · 20/01/2021 12:44

One of my (lovely but not for me) ex boyfriends was a plumber. His girlfriend before me was someone he met on a job. She text him asking him to come round for a drink. He did. They were together a year or so. So it does happen. It may not happen this time but I think you're incredibly brave for putting yourself out there and have my fingers crossed it works out for you.

Yoshinori · 20/01/2021 12:47

Fingers crossed 🤞🏼

TheRealLadyWhistledown · 20/01/2021 12:48

Fingers crossed OP

Original poster
PawPatrol24 · 20/01/2021 12:49

@Mylittlepony374

One of my (lovely but not for me) ex boyfriends was a plumber. His girlfriend before me was someone he met on a job. She text him asking him to come round for a drink. He did. They were together a year or so. So it does happen. It may not happen this time but I think you're incredibly brave for putting yourself out there and have my fingers crossed it works out for you.
I genuinely am unsure of whether he will reply, but it's done wonders for my self-esteem at least. I was in a really crappy relationship for 2 years which really took a lot out of me, so it was kinda a big deal to find the confidence to make the first move with someone I'm massively attracted to, you know? I've never been this bold and taken the initiative before, but I'm a massive advocate for women doing so.

If anything it's nice to take the experience away from this :)

OP posts:
livefornaps · 20/01/2021 12:50

He may be thinking that he doesn't fancy a tea party with someone else's three year old

DustyMuse · 20/01/2021 12:54

Chances are he'll respond to your message on his return from work this evening. (Fingers crossed.)

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PawPatrol24 · 20/01/2021 12:58

@livefornaps

He may be thinking that he doesn't fancy a tea party with someone else's three year old
Jesus, I didn't mean right away. Kinda feel like it's important to see if he actually wants to meet for a drink before I begin planning it XD That would make me look absolutely bonkers.
OP posts:
Buttermaflooby · 20/01/2021 13:11

Aww this is awesome. I hope he replies! Following this!

IAmBeatrixKiddo · 20/01/2021 13:31

What a lovely thread. Hope he replies, OP!

Bettysnow · 20/01/2021 14:31

Have you ever text him on his mobile before? I mean regarding repairs and if you have did he reply? Im just wondering in case its a work mobile and used by different plumbers for the same company. Also are you sure you text the right number?

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PawPatrol24 · 20/01/2021 14:33

@Bettysnow

Have you ever text him on his mobile before? I mean regarding repairs and if you have did he reply? Im just wondering in case its a work mobile and used by different plumbers for the same company. Also are you sure you text the right number?
He called me from the number yesterday morning, which is how I got it. So I mean, that's all I can go by, really.
OP posts:
Bettysnow · 20/01/2021 14:53

It could be a work mobile although i guess theres any amount of reasons. I just think based on how you describe him as a pretty friendly guy that he would have replied. Even if it was a thanks but cant sorry reply. In the event he doesn't reply i think you should keep an open mind that genuinely he didn't receive it. Just pick up where you left off and enjoy chatting to him next time he shows. Hopefully though you will get a reply later this evening. Its great you're dipping your toe back in the water again and good on you for taking the bull by the horns so to speak. Congratulate yourself for having had the confidence to take actionFlowers

Pebbledashery · 20/01/2021 15:13

I think it's as others said.. Generally work men are out very early and don't have much time to be in touch during the day. Plumbers are always busy. I'm sure you'll hear from him later :)

Ntwa · 20/01/2021 15:17

Placemarking! Fingers crossed, I'm sure you'll hear from him later!

CleverCatty · 20/01/2021 15:20

OP - even if you don't hear from him later then it's better you actually bit the bullet and texted him rather than didn't.

Fortune favours the brave!

If it were me (I'm not a man!) and even if I wasn't single I'd be very flattered by this message (but hoping it wasn't a 3 year old doing it!).

I rarely see any workmen, my plumber is a married, older family friend but very not my type!