It's a porn one..

[Usernameok123]

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Let me start by saying, I'm one of those women who is fine with porn. I watch porn myself. I'm not here for a MN telling off about porn please.

Used DH's laptop tonight for a zoom call with friends. He has to be up at 4am for work - goodnight darling, sleep well etc.

A few minutes into the call with friends, a little icon keeps bouncing up and down (it's a MacBook, I'm not well versed in them). I click on it to see what it's for.

Lo and behold, it tells me that DH is looking at porn. In fact, he's looking at "shemale" porn. I see as much as I need to see and close the window. What I saw was a lot.

What the actual fuck do I do now? Is it just curiosity? Is he gay? What the fuck??

We have literally zero problems in our relationship. Sexual, emotional, we are so strong.

Is it just the type of porn he likes to look at?

I am so, so thrown by this. Do I pull the man up over a fantasy?

Brains scrambled.

V glad you feeling better, Op!

And I had to react to this:

I don't think many people are primarily physically attracted to genitals.

Sorry - this is going off piste a bit but - really? I must be a rare one then. Am I really alone in finding the actual sight of DP's equipment (for want of a better word 😅) an immediate turn-on??

It's just another porn subject. If you both watch porn then it should not be an issue. Porn becomes boring and people look for something different to either shock themselves or indulge their fantasies. As long as it is not too shocking or illegal don't worry.

As a guy whose pansexual, shemale porn is hot. Pansexual = don't care about gender. He could be bi too and I have heard straight men might also have a fetish for shemales/trans (in Asia, I think the term "Ladyboy" is used and means the same thing).

Don't worry about it. If he loves you and you have sex and he's not cheating then it's nothing to worry about. Let the guy express his sexuality!

I wanted to add that people become bored with porn and may want to look at more adventurous stuff as others have pointed out. I'm not saying he's pan or bi, and it's very likely he might be 100% straight. Just don't worry about it. I hope you figured everything out and are both doing well :)