To rehome my dog :(

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I've had my chihuahua prince for 8 years he has been my best friend ever since and I love him to pieces. However I am currently in a abusive relationship and he hates my dog I have been with my partner for three years. He hates dog hairs he hates how much attention he needs.

I have plans to leave my OH soon but I can't do it with my dog, I also don't think I'm stable enough to keep him either. I would love him to go to a nice family that can take care of him and he can relax properly without being scared every time OH walks past.

I have two DCS and I think leaving the family home with just me and them will be hard enough I can't really do it with a dog.

AIBU to rehome him?
I don't want to go and do it then regret it later just because of this bastard. But I also know I can't give him everything he deserves right now.

Hi, dog’s trust do a freedom trust service for your circumstances. Worth looking into that. Also Cinnamon trust. Good luck.

Do what's best for the dog. Don't feel guilty about rehoming him no matter what people say.

Yes, look into the possibility of having him fostered for a short period while you leave the relationship and start somewhere new. Cinnamon Trust was my first thought. Something to look forward to that you could have him back when your circumstances are improved. Good luck.

I’d look into fostering too, well done for getting the courage to leave

Doesn’t sound like a bad idea in your circumstances
Do you have any friends or family that could have him on the basis that you can have him back when you are settled

Have him fostered but dont abandon him.

@GoldfishParade

Have him fostered but dont abandon him.

Oh don't be so horrible, 'abandon' him, you're talking to someone who is trying to escape an abusive relationship, she doesn't need you guilt tripping her about making the sensible decision to do the best for her family including the dog.

Try contacting these organisations that help in your circumstances I’ve pasted their relevant links below

www.dogstrust.org.uk/help-advice/hope-project-freedom-project/freedom-project

fosterfirst.co.uk/domestic-violence/

www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/what-about-pets/

There’s a useful pdf here 1q7dqy2unor827bqjls0c4rn-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Links_leaflet_Oct_2011.pdf

I understand you op, well done for making the decision to leave and good luck with it. I'm sure your dog will find a good home.

Your priority has to be getting yourself and your children away from your abuser. If you need to rehome your dog to do that then you are not being at all unreasonable. If you can get him fostered or short term care it would be lovely for you if you could get him back when you are settled I'm sure. But he will be suffering if he is constantly in fear of your abuser so you are definitely doing the right thing x

Oh just stop. She's not abandoning him she's in a difficult situation. Trying to find somewhere to live (I'm assuming renting) with a dog is difficult.

Op is there any family that can have him while you sort everything out?

You are doing what is best for the dog. People who go you shouldn't rehome dogs when it is clearly in the dogs best interest is nuts and the reason we get neglected dogs.

I think in this circs what is best for you is what is best for your dog. There are some charities which will allow for foster under these circumstances which a PP mentioned. Or if you really don't think think you will be able to care for more than a year then rehome. find a shelter that will look after him and rehome. small dogs tend to get rehomed fairly quickly esp when they've been used to children

Sorry, the oh just stop was aimed at @GoldfishParade not you op.

'You are doing what is best for the dog. People who go you shouldn't rehome dogs when it is clearly in the dogs best interest is nuts and the reason we get neglected dogs. '

Exactly right. Dogs are not babies, they don't need to be with their 'mummy' for life, they'll be perfectly happy in any old home with a kind owner and a full food bowl.

I hope he can be fostered, OP, that would obviously be the best thing for all of you.

You need to do what is best for you and your children op, to get out safely. Dogs are really adaptable, he will get over you (as horrible as that is to say) and you know you’ve given him a good life so far. Don’t worry about the dog, look at rehoming options, rspca etc, with reputable places so you don’t worry about him.

@GoldfishParade

Have him fostered but dont abandon him.

For those jumping on this poster, it could be possible they mean “abandon” as in the literal sense (tying him to a lamppost or chucking him out the car) rather than the emotion “abandoning” sense.

@GoldfishParade

Have him fostered but dont abandon him.

Are you always so unpleasant?

The OP is trying to get out of an abusive relationship, she doesn't need you piling on the emotional guilt.

OP, do what you need to do. I'm glad to see people have recommended some helpful places.

Try and find someone to foster him OP. I have looked after a friend's dog for 6 months before. We already have a dog so it made no difference to us.

Best of luck with your move.

Of course YANBU to rehome your dog. Just a thought though, if you do it in advance of leaving it might alert your abuser to your plans?

Be safe and plan carefully. I hope you have good advice and support.

A lot of people have already mentioned about organisations that can help with temporary fostering for family pets when trying to get out of an abusive situation. It can be a barrier to leaving as they are really much more than pets, like you say they are your best friend. Please look into their suggestions as these organisations understand and can help you. But if in the event they can’t do temporary fostering please don’t feel guilty about rehoming, if you go through a proper organisation they will find a loving home. Best of luck to you!

Sorry I didnt mean "abandon" to sound judgemental. I meant get him fostered but not adopted, get him back when you are safe. Not just for his sake but for your sake too. This is your "best friend" as you say, I think you will regret losing him for good.
Abandon is a loaded word admittedly.

Sounds like you all need to escape the clutches of abuser. The quicker the better. Try for short term foster care as dog is 8 he will only have a few more years to live and your children will miss him. You should focus on getting out with DC and dog and then getting dog cared for in short term but friends, or Canine Defence League.

If you move fog put first you will alert abuser and he could take it out on you or children.

Nothing wrong with rehoming if you prefer it to fostering. Dogs need a good home and a level of consistency. Not necessarily one home for life.