To rehome my dog :(

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I've had my chihuahua prince for 8 years he has been my best friend ever since and I love him to pieces. However I am currently in a abusive relationship and he hates my dog I have been with my partner for three years. He hates dog hairs he hates how much attention he needs.

I have plans to leave my OH soon but I can't do it with my dog, I also don't think I'm stable enough to keep him either. I would love him to go to a nice family that can take care of him and he can relax properly without being scared every time OH walks past.

I have two DCS and I think leaving the family home with just me and them will be hard enough I can't really do it with a dog.

AIBU to rehome him?
I don't want to go and do it then regret it later just because of this bastard. But I also know I can't give him everything he deserves right now.

OP, I hope you are okay, please update us.

I’m not sure if this would be something you would consider, but me and my two children have been in two refuges due to extremely abusive ex. The first time my dog (my soulmate 💚) was fostered by a domestic abuse charity for three months, we then moved into a new property and got him back. Sadly my ex then found us and we had to flee 400miles away into a second refuge, but this refuge actually allowed us to bring our dog!! The first foster home also said they would take our dog back if needed again as well. Help is out there from some truly incredibly kind hearted people.

My dog was abused by my ex badly and still has many signs of trauma, but me and my children and our dog are settled in a new home now and when my children have gone to bed and my dog has provided me with company and licking my tears away and all the love on lonely evenings has probably saved my mental health.

If you foster your dog and then decide you can’t take him back, they will sort it out for you, and likewise once you’re away from your ex if you decided you did want your dog back, then that’s what would happen. As long as the dog is safe, that’s the main thing, and likewise you and your children are safe. Please please leave, help is out there

I'd look into keeping him, lots of places support people in your circumstances. I also think it would be distressing for your children to have the additional loss of the dog on top of everything else. That dog might just be your excuse to get up and out in the fresh air everyday, it might just save your sanity. Good luck.

Hope you are ok op. Am worried for you

Harc- hope animal rescue centre offer fostering services.

Silver Fox Dog Rescue may also be able to help, they specialise in smaller breeds.

Op, it’s going to be -2 tonight, a Chihuahua will be seriously ill outside overnight.
Climb through a bloody window but that dog needs to come inside.

I’m really really hoping that the reason you haven’t been back is because you were busy getting away. I’m a couple of hours away but feel free to contact if I can help.

Please update us OP. I hope you are all ok

Hi op how are you, you’re kids and the dog?

I'd be happy to foster too, I've been looking funnily enough but a lot of the agencies aren't able to vet homes right now due to covid so haven't been able to

Hope you are OK OP.

You and your family and dog have been on my mind all day.

You are not being unreasonable and it's kinder for the dog but I'd ask you to think about it a little differently. I know how an abusive relationship can make you feel, like everything is hopeless but bare with me.
Your will get out and things will get better. Maybe look into a dog fostering service for now, consider that ait will be kinder and safer for your dog to be elsewhere but then once your settled you could take him back. I left an abusive and violent relationship 3 years ago. I was lucky that it was my house so the police made him leave but I struggled in other ways. The one thing that got me through that was my beloved dog. He hated my fog too, and the police said that's quite common. The bastards use anything they can to use against you. Please don't feel bad about yourself if you do decide to rehome him permanently but I would beg you to consider other options too. My darling boy had to be put to sleep this year and my heart is still so very broken. Partly because we went through so much together, that dog was my rock when I thought I couldn't go on.

OP, I don't know if this will be of any help, or uptodate, but it's from Womens Aid about pet fostering services
www.womensaid.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Links_leaflet_Oct_2011.pdf