Hi all,
I am sat here numb and devastated as I found out earlier today that my husband of 8 years has cheated on me. A pretty young woman messaged me on Facebook to say she has been having an affair with my husband for the past year and provided plenty of evidence of this in the form of voicemail messages, screen shots, videos etc.
Me and the husband have had a Rocky marriage since the children (4 and 5) were born. He resented the responsibility and when my daughter was a year old he went to live with his mum (who is a widow) and sister (divorced with 2 kids). I was not happy with this but was so preoccupied with working and raising my kids I let it be as he would spend lots of time with us and we would go on holiday together etc. The topic of divorce came up a few times but he was adamant that he didn’t want this.
I confronted him about the affair and he admitted it. Said it started when we were going through a difficult patch and doesn’t want to break up over this. The woman that messaged me said he had promised to marry her, sent her links to houses so they can live there with my children staying at the weekend. Incidentally I moved to a new house a few weeks ago and he refused to consider buying a house together as he wanted his freedom. He has been sleeping with this woman, meeting her, taking her out and telling her he loves her. He said he never promised her anything and it was just a fling. He said he doesn’t want to be with her. I am actually devastated about this revelation. I have asked for a divorce but soo upset. I turn 40 in a few days and just bought a big house that needs work plus the kids are at home and keep catching me crying.
How do I deal with this 😢