No message on Christmas Eve

[lollipoprainbow]

Aibu to expect a Christmas Eve message from someone I have been on lots of dates with since February? I saw him yesterday as he had to pop over to fix up a computer I was buying from him but I've heard nothing from him all day today. We live in different towns. I always want Christmas to be all romantic and lovely like Love Actually but the reality is very different!

Have you sent him one?

It's only 7.45!

As an aside I know the ex girlfriend is visiting her family in the pub where he drinks and I think they will meet up. I'm about to get my heart trampled on I think !

Is a christmas eve message a thing? I'd be concerned if I hasn't heard from him on Christmas Day but Christmas eve, he may just be busy, unless he is the type to usually be in contact all day every day.

@BarryTheKestrel yes he is generally in touch daily so that's what's odd. He's a big socialiser and loves the pub so I imagine that's where is tonight.

Do you usually hear from him daily?

Do you want a special Christmas Eve message, or just to chat to him?

I’ve never sent a Christmas Eve message, I don’t know what one is I’d probably send a Merry Christmas message to someone I was dating tomorrow...

Would you normally exchange messages during the day? Has he lost his phone? Lost his charger ? Have you seen him online at all ?
Hopefully you will receive a sloppy romantic message soon .

We aren't really dating it's not at all serious we just meet up for dinner and drinks regularly.

@Purplethrow he's been on WhatsApp in last few minutes, I went to message him then decided not to.

I think most people just send a Merry Christmas message on the day. There's not much to say on Christmas Eve.

There is lots to say like I love gin!

So he's a friend with benefits? You aren't dating just meet for dates? So why do you feel he needs to text you?

Yabu I'd expect one Xmas day but not Eve if I'm dating someone

@Justa47 thinks that's the problem I've drunk too much of it tonight and am feeling meloncholy !

@Chocolate123 there aren't any benefits we aren't doing the deed ! I'm just used to him messaging me every day.

@lollipoprainbow well then you are just friends so why does it matter he might be meeting an ex? Do you want more ? Do you want him as a BF?

@Chocolate123 not really but I hate the thought of him being with someone else having a lovely time.

@lollipoprainbow I don't get it you don't want more but you don't want him with anybody else. You said your heart is about to be trampled on. He's entitled to meet whoever he want of you aren't together

@lollipoprainbow

In that case lots of water and get tucked up in bed. Then tomorrow will be fabulous

@Chocolate123 I'm very fond of him, I miss his messages when I don't hear from him. Yes he can meet who he likes and I don't usually fret over it but tonight feels different ! I think if I had heard from him I wouldn't be feeling like this.

So you’re not dating, and you don’t want to be, but you don’t want him to be having fun with anyone else and you feel like your heart is about to be trampled on?

It’d either the alcohol talking, or you want more with him then you’re letting on... do you know which it is?

Just message him yourself. Maybe he's feeling miffed that you haven't send a Christmas eve message? Even though I don't think that's a thing.

Wait. These 'dates'. Does he know they're dates?

@HopeAndDriftWood I clearly do want more.

@simone1863 what do you mean ?!