Husband doing nothing to help at Christmas.

[pjsrock2020]

I know there are more important things in the world right now, but does anyone else's husband do fuck all to prepare for Christmas. Feeling exhausted and pissed off. He's always useless at Christmas but this year he's even more useless. If I say anything he accuses me of nagging and it turns into an argument. He knows none of the presents I've bought for our children, nor the presents I've bought for his children (my dsc) and he doesn't seem to care either. I've thought of what to buy, wrapped everything and sorted everything. The final straw came yesterday when I'd been and got my Christmas food shop (took ages, had to queue for 20 minutes to get in etc) and was so relieved it was over, then he got in from work and opened a load of it like a child. When I said to him but that was for Christmas he got really moody with me and said I knew you'd moan, like I was moody and unreasonable. I'm doing all the housework to get the house ready and all of the food preparation.
Is it too much to actually want him to do stuff as well? I actually work more hours than him too! Feeling utterly exhausted and pissed off. Feel like telling him to shove it all up his arse!

I (man) have done 90% of the Christmas prep so far. I’ve had the spare time which my DP has lacked this year as she’s working in the FL NHS.

I’ve bought all the food, snacks and drinks. Planned the meal, bought the vast majority of presents for my DC and hers and wrapped them, put up the tree and decs etc. My DP comes in every night shattered from work, so I’m happy to be doing it.

By tonight I’ll have blitzed the house, ready for the morning. I’ll have cooked tonight’s tea as well and I’ll share the prep and cooking duties for lunch tomorrow. None of this is difficult for either sex to do, and I hate hearing about lazy partners of either gender.

My stepson has one of those; a GF who does fuck all (at any time of the year). I’ve always told my DC to accept nothing less than an equitable split of household chores when they have partners of their own.

@pjsrock2020, totally!
I think there are quite a few people out there who just want to go through the holidays peacefully and are planning to start taking about splitting up early-2021.

I love reading here how things can be equal in relationships. I was in an abusive relationship before but when I read things here about how equal things can be, then I have so much more hope. I have a partner at present but it's early days still. It's nice to think this could all be possible!

Definitely.
Just to add to the examples: my DH does the vast majority of the meal planning, food shopping and cooking. Christmas no different.

Another useless man.
Makes me glad to be single.
Obviously that means I have to do it all, but no-one there to get in the way and feel resentment towards
I couldnt live with it.
Why on earth did you ever take on ironing his shirts and buying for his kids in the first place?
Never. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than baby or train a grown man into being a functioning human being.