Found hidden beer cans in shed

[Falalah]

I’ve spoken to H lots about his drinking during our 10yr relationship, not much has changed, he has about 15 units per day on average. When it’s been at it’s worst it’s been as much 30 a day.

Do I call him out on the cans in the shed? They were in a carrier bag and he’d put other carriers on top to hide them so was definitely a deliberate attempt to hide them.

I sort of think what’s the point of saying anything, he won’t change, what will it achieve? Trying to not take it personally, as this discovery has come after a ‘good run’ of him cutting down, and me helping him have an easier life so he is less stressed as this is one of his reasons for why he drinks. But he probably has just found a new hiding place and I’ve enabled him.

Every time I think this can be fixed and we might be ok, something like this happens.

I find the smell of the booze disgusting, both the night of the drinking and the sour smell the morning after. All routine and sense of purpose goes out the window once he’s started in the evening. I feel like it’s an uphill struggle, I have to be the grown up and I can’t rely on him and he doesn’t take the initiative to do anything. It’s exhausting. Sorry ranting now!

I left my husband a few months ago (well made him leave). I have a small baby. He smokes weed every night and started since early last year to drink every day usually from 4pm ish (after having got up at around 11am/12pm just beer but often very strong ones. To me it seemed he was turning into an alcoholic.. he drank before but not everyday but definitely liked a drink. he said at lunch one random day when I wasn't there that he had whisky with coke as he had run out of beer, just like a Tuesday or something.. that seemed odd to me. drinking while gardening, it seemed like it had gone from just enjoying beer to a more entrenched relationship I can't always put my finger on it but every time I heard him open a can I would feel on edge. He said everyone is drinking during lockdown. Reading this is helpful it's hard when you are on your own but life with someone who is addicted is crap.