Am I right to be upset

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Bit long but will try to keep it brief. I don't know what I'm after here maybe just trying to vent..

My daughter was hospitalised 3 months ago severely ill with Sepsis, a month later she was back in with the same thing.. and since then she's still not fully recovered. She is now on long term antibiotics..
She was seen by drs earlier this week as she had some symptoms and they sent samples off to be tested. I got a call lastnight to say she had yet another infection but needed different antibiotics as the ones she's on are resistant. Just before this time I was messaging my boyfriend of 3 yrs and i messaged saying give me a minute just taking a call... half hour later after I was done speaking with drs telling me about the new infection and telling me keep a close eye any change in her sort prescription etc .. i had a good cry and was gutted she's still feeling poorly and doesn't seem to be any let up... I text him again saying it was drs and she's got another infection and that i had been in tears,... he replied several hours later being really blunt saying ""well its good news ain't it she's getting more antibiotics, I dunno why your worrying and pulling your hair out, she's fine she's been going school and if she was soo ill you wouldn't have sent her would you. You want a life of overworrying"" *because she's still recovering shes only been going to school for a couple hours when she's up to it... I felt really hurt and tried to say dont worry u won't understand and end the conversation.. he went on and i said he was being unsupportive and insensitive... he went mad when I said this then blew up and demanded I pay back money he gifted me towards the kids Xmas presents, money i never asked for but he insisted he wanted to help. I then did transfer it back to his account..

I dont know what I'm asking here but am I right to feel upset.. I'm already feeling emotionally drained with what's going on with my daughter so maybe its me being too sensitive?

He made you pay back the money?? And you're still calling him your boyfriend?

For real? OP...you need to end it now. He sounds like a complete wanker!

You've been going through a really difficult and worrying time and he does that!? Honestly...he sounds like an arsehole.

You'll be better off without him!

Thank you Fortunesfav.. its certainly not the first time he's done things like this.

I got a message today saying I caused all the issues and that by me calling him insensitive and unsupportive means I no longer deserved his help.. I was going to reply to point out why I said he was being insensitive etc and he put
"dont bother replying you will only make it worse" then blocked me

It's not a good relationship op.

You called him insensitive and unsupportive, because he is!!

I also can't believe he demanded the money back either, what a bellend.

Block him on everything, so when he's done with his toddler tantrum he can't contact you.

And this waste of skin is your boyfriend because......take him at his word and get rid

I think you need to have a word with yourself. Why would you be putting up with this? And the fact you need to ask?

I think i know deep down its wrong.. but with everything iv had going on Iv questioned myself whether its just me being over sensitive 😕

Freedom Programme might be a good idea for you. Sounds like you've been putting up with poor treatment for quite some time.

I hope the medical team manage to get your daughter well again soon.

He sounds like a prick, dump his narcissistic ass!

Ugh, he's awful. He has to go.

He doesn't live with you, does he?

You're being to sensitive???????
You need to raise your standards immediately because they are scraping the bottom of the barrel.
Dump this prick he is a total waste of space. How can you even think of going out with him, he clearly doesn't give a shit about you or your children.

Fuck this fucker

No doesn't live with me.
I feel like my heads a mess. He can be so lovely and then be so nasty and horrible and when he messaged me earlier he's good at twisting it to make it seem like I'm completely in the wrong

Please end this relationship, it's madness to continue.

You need to focus on your little one and also be determined not to expose them to unhealthy relationships.

The longer they see this kind of dynamic, or how the relationship affects your mental health, the more normalised it is and the more likely they are to end up in a similar relationship.

He sounds horrible because he is horrible. He sounds insensitive because he is insensitive. He sounds uninterested because he is uninterested.

This is who he is. Please stop giving any more time and energy to someone who is making you unhappy. You know you need to end it right?

You are well rid of him. You don't need this see saw of emotions. One moment nice, the next nasty. Its designed to leave you in the state you are in.. confused, distressed and questioning yourself.

Why are people saying dump him? He's already done the dumping! Perhaps being in a relationship that involves children doesn't work for him as he wants more attention than he's getting. Breathe a big sigh of relief, care for your daughter and accept he's moved on.

Does he have kids? I hope not because pity their poor mum!

Seriously YANBU bless you, what an awful worrying time.

You can do better, he’s actually a complete fucker and you need to block and delete him right back because at some point he’s going to come crawling!

What an absolute unmitigated bastard he is.

Of course you are right to be upset and to shed a few tears, and anyone with a shred of kindness and empathy would think so too.

If he gets back in contact, fgs don't beg him back. Get him out of your life for good, it's no good being with someone like this.

He blocked you
Good
Stay blocked. Find a better way to occupy your and your daughter's time. This ars*^% ain't going to get better.

Take him blocking you as an early Xmas present. Honestly, you and your dd deserve so much more. He is horrid and the nice/nasty cycle is something abusive people use to keep you on your toes so you don't know which way is up. That way you never have 5 minutes to stop and think about how badly he's treating you. I'm sorry you have been treated like this but see this as a blessing in disguise, although i know it will be hard to do so initially.

Thank you all.for taking the time to read and reply. My heads all over the place but the fact you are all unanimous in what you say says alot to me. I'm still currently blocked and haven't heard anymore from him.. yet.
In his last message earlier he also put that his Christmas was now ruined thanks to me and iv let my kids down (not his kids) and that I'm not a very nice person 😕

Oh fgs. Why are you even giving him a thought?? Just block the twat.

you are a fantastic person who was putting your daughter first. You have had a lot of emotional stress with her illness and she is still on medication. You would not be human if you were not worried and upset.

As for this man, well, of course he can be nice because otherwise you would not have spent time with him. But the actions you have described on here also show that he is callous and cruel and it is not a good thing for him to stay in your life.

He has had a tantrum because you spent time talking to your daughter’s doctor, you were upset and not focusing on him and as a punishment, he has asked for money back which he gifted you. Those are not the actions of a nice man.

If he gets back in touch, please do not get reeled back in. He might be super nice for a bit but then he will pull another stunt like this because he knows he can. Block him back, and focus on you and your daughter. You really do deserve better.

I hope your daughter is okay and starts to recover

Block him so you don’t get any communications from him. He is an arse and you and your dc deserve someone much better who cares about them and supports you