Oh calling dc a

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I don’t really know if this is the right place to post,
Oh always calling dc a gimp
Ive told him time after time not to etc... I don’t know if im being precious or he’s in the wrong but ive had enough
What are peoples thoughts

That's awful. How old is your DC?

He’s 8

Wouldn't bother me one bit

Does DC deserve it? [grim]

Totally depends on context
Is OH making fun of his disability or some physical problem
Does your son have an orange ball in his mouth a lot ?
Does son find this funny ?
Is he otherwise a great dad ?

I wouldn't like it either

@changedmynameforChristmas

Wouldn't bother me one bit

Why not? It is a derogatory term about disabled people isn't it?

Of course OP isn't being unreasonable.

It is a bit of an odd word to choose. I don't much like it when my DH calls DS a nincompoop in response to him doing something cackhandedly.

Does he often dismiss your wishes? If calling dc 'gimp' is more important to him than respecting your wishes, you have wider issues. Whether it's right or wrong isn't really the issue, but to be honest, if he says he can't see why some people might find it offensive, I think he's being disingenuous.

You say OH. Is he your son’s dad?

Ewww, a gimp I thought was male in bondage gear and a hood in s&m orgies!! Certainly not a name for a child!

God I haven’t heard ‘gimp’ in so long!!

It's not nice
Is oh his dad?

That's an awful thing to call him. Is your OH his dad? Have you asked him why he would want to call your son such a derogatory term?

Gimp - noun. Offensive, slag a physically disabled person, esp one who is lame.
Slang a sexual fetishist who likes to be dominated and who dresses in a leather or rubber body suit with mask, zips and chains.

Neither of those meanings make it ok to use that word to an 8 year old child. I hoe your oh is prepared to tell your son exactly what it means if he asks. Even worse he can get on google and find out for himself.

*slang, not slag

He is his dad
He says in like saying stupid, moron, fool, dope etc...
I don’t understand why post has been hidden

Well then instead of just being a nasty prick, he’s a nasty, biological prick.

Why would it be ok to call your son stupid or a moron or a fool? He sounds unkind

Why would you call your own child (or any other) any of those other words either though? We are supposed to raise our children up and make them believe they can do anything they set their mind to. Those words are the complete opposite of that and this makes me very sad to read.

As i described in my previous post anyway, the word gimp dos not mean those things. It is offensive and sexual.

Really not an appropriate way to talk to a child and you have tried to defend your child and state your boundaries which have been ignored. It is not "precious" to have a clear boundary for the way he addresses your little boy. A gimp is s subservient person used as a sex toy, so why other people would be ok with their little 8 year old boy called that that I don't know

These are excatly my own feelings but just wanted to make sure
Always second guessing myself 🥺

Your DS is now growing up thinking that it is normal and acceptable to use this term.

I’d be worried about that.