Ghosted?! Help me compose a pithy response before I block?

[40swrinklesandspots]

We went to school together 25 years ago - fancied the pants off each other but it never happened. Fast forward and we have always kept in touch in a happy Xmas on Facebook type way.
During lockdown 0.1 we started chatting more and there was a lot of chemistry. I have just come out of a long marriage and not looking for a relationship- think he is similar.
We ended up in a very casual FwB type situation (live opposite ends of country so hard to see each other between kids, logistics, work and not to mention Covid)
But he has always blown a bit hot and cold and to be honest I’ve probably let him get away with more shit than I should have because of the attraction, sexual chemistry and nostalgia. And because he made me feel wanted and fun.
Anyway, we messaged last week and everything was cool- arranged a possible virtual date for that night. Didn’t hear from him. Fine- no pressure-
Life gets in the way. By Saturday hadn’t heard so just sent a message saying hi. No response!
Think he has ghosted Me?
Help me send a message before I block that will make me feel better?
I’m thinking ‘wow! You’ve ghosted me? Cool move dude’ and then blocking ?

Horrible post @kalula OP do ignore, it's utter bullshit.

Agree FWB means that you don't expect them to accompany you to a family wedding but certainly SOME level of decency is required if an arrangement has been made. Otherwise what? the man concerned treats you like you're his toy to pick up and play with when he wants and on his terms only? That's not FWB that's being a cunt

@PamsterWheel Yes I was harsh and probably too abrupt, but you too don't seem to understand that FWB is just a shag when you feel like it. And no arrangements were made, OP herself said that they were possibly arranging a 'virtual' date. Possibly. Maybe. There was no arrangement. He owes her nothing. She owes him nothing. The expectation of him that he turn up to discuss a possible computer date is utterly bizarre. It's just not reasonable or rational. They have no relationship.

FWB is just a shag when you feel like it. And no arrangements were made, OP herself said that they were possibly arranging a 'virtual' date. Possibly. Maybe. There was no arrangement. He owes her nothing. She owes him nothing. The expectation of him that he turn up to discuss a possible computer date is utterly bizarre

All of this. Completely agree.

I agree with pamsterwheel that there has to be some level of decency. The thing about FWB is that there are no set rules. I have twice been FWB with friends when neither of us was in a relationship. Then we did expect the same standard in terms of keeping in touch because we were friends outside the 'with benefits' bit. Other people who don't expect to meet up except when they are meeting for sex will have a different arrangement and different expectations. It does sound as if you would like more of a relationship 40swrinklesandspots. It depends whether feeling wanted and excited is enough for you or whether you decide you should call time (in your head - no need to let him know) on the situation.