Ghosted?! Help me compose a pithy response before I block?

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We went to school together 25 years ago - fancied the pants off each other but it never happened. Fast forward and we have always kept in touch in a happy Xmas on Facebook type way.
During lockdown 0.1 we started chatting more and there was a lot of chemistry. I have just come out of a long marriage and not looking for a relationship- think he is similar.
We ended up in a very casual FwB type situation (live opposite ends of country so hard to see each other between kids, logistics, work and not to mention Covid)
But he has always blown a bit hot and cold and to be honest I’ve probably let him get away with more shit than I should have because of the attraction, sexual chemistry and nostalgia. And because he made me feel wanted and fun.
Anyway, we messaged last week and everything was cool- arranged a possible virtual date for that night. Didn’t hear from him. Fine- no pressure-
Life gets in the way. By Saturday hadn’t heard so just sent a message saying hi. No response!
Think he has ghosted Me?
Help me send a message before I block that will make me feel better?
I’m thinking ‘wow! You’ve ghosted me? Cool move dude’ and then blocking ?

Don't message him. Act like you don't care and don't give the ego boost of knowing how into him you are.

Hmm I was in a situation where it looked like things were going to fizzle out with a guy.

I decided for my own self respect to message and say, "looks like we have run out of things to say to each other, thanks for everything, let's leave it there "

He messaged right back to say the same thing, so all ended amicably and I felt better. I felt empowered as I hadn't just let it fizzle out.

Similarly "all the best," would work too i think.

But you may feel differently.

Don't send that! FWB is casual, and he could have an emergency going on. Block if you want to, but you'll look silly if you send that message.

Bide your time.
If he messages you answer with
Who's this?
If he doesn't then draw a picture of him and stick pins in it...

God no. That’s not pithy, it’s pissy. He lives at the other end of the country so it’s not happening anyway. Maintain your dignity here.

Your silence will speak volumes. Don't message him

I agree with those who say don’t message
You say you want him to know you are hurt .
He will figure that out when he sees he’s blocked or gets no response if he writes
Just block and move on . Believe me , it will feel life empowering in the long run

Indifference is your friend here. Not necessarily with benefits but with a bit of dignity

You need to find the thread where the bf messaged in the middle of the night saying it's over don't contact me again. The OP didn't, she just took one day at a time and just never said all the things that she desperately wanted to say.

He came crawling back months later shocked that she wasn't bothered and had just moved on. It was so satisfying to read.

@sunsalutations

Ignore. Don't contact further. Indifference is powerful

This.

If anything, jamaisjedors message is the best.

Do not message. Whatever you say - if he has lost interest which it seems he has - will seem needy and a bit sad. Walk away head held high ... oh and don't block either ... makes you look angry. Far better to look slightly indifferent.

Dumped by text www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3800477-Dumped-by-text

Ghost him right back. Make no response. Don't even block him. Make like you've not even noticed he hasn't responded. He'll be in touch by the end of the month.

He remains ghosted though. Never respond to him again. Your silence is your voice.

@Moondust001

Don't, just don't. If it's over, it's over. But if you find out his mum died, or his best friend is terminally ill, or whatever, then you look a total bitch

This. Just leave it. He may get in touch and you would feel like a cow having been nasty.

Maybe he can't get it up anymore, or he's had a really dodgy hair transplant

I'd leave him be, he sounds a bit of a knob.

Pithy or petty? Take the high ground and ignore. I get what you mean about younger you being blown away, I've been in the same situation. But you're not younger you now, don't let yourself be messed around because you know better. He may ghost but you don't have to challenge.

Dumped by text was my favourite ever thread

Do not text him.

He's expecting you to. Surprise him by letting him see how little it's bothered you.

Do. Not. Do. It.

Ok, I have blocked. Hopefully his mum hasn’t died. That’s a joke

Hmm, read that back and it sounds like I’m joking about his mum dying- I’m not.
Anyway, don’t feel great blocking but think it’s probably the thing to do as if I’m U.K. est I was developing feelings which obviously weren’t reciprocated.

Don’t humiliate yourself by sending a message. Silence is the best answer you can give to him. You will achieve literally nothing if you text.

Why assume the worst, that he’s ghosting you, rather than that something bad is going on in his life making it not possible to contact you?

Why on earth have you assumed you were ghosted? You sent him a hi message on Saturday, and because he hasn’t replied by the next day you think he’s ghosted you and you’ve blocked him?

Why did you block? That shows you care?