Is he a prick?

[Peakyblinder101]

Hello ladies

I have had about 6/7 dates with a guy, going well however I have felt the conversation has not been flowing and not really suited to one another, however I hadn’t thought too deeply in to it to be honest and saw it as lets just see how it goes. It seems he agreed after the last date last night he has messaged me today, I stayed over last night and he had bought food for us to eat last night etc. Now he initially messaged saying I’m sorry I don’t see it going anywhere because of the age difference (I am 25 he is 33) and he is sorry. I replied nicely saying don’t be sorry I agree but not in terms of age more in terms of personality and felt that ended it all nicely. No harm done.

He then replied a while later saying it has left a ‘sour taste’ for him as I had not thanked him for the money he has spent and he felt it would have been nice for me to thank him. I apologised he felt that way and said I had offered to transfer, which I have done after each bit of money he has spent including this morning to which he always says don't be silly and it’s only ‘such and such’.

Now I am going to transfer money to him but I just feel it is quite spiteful to tell me all along it is no issue with money, and he has been happy to pay and shut me down when I have offered, to now throw it back at me. When he has discussed people he has dated before he has talked a lot about the amount of money he spent on them and thy don’t offer, so at those points I always said oh I have never meant that I would rather split, for him to again say no its not you I mean etc this is small amounts. Bare in mind a lot of our dates have been at home so ifs home cooked food and shop drinks so not massively expensive, but like I say I assure you I have offered buf he declines.

It’s left me feeling like I sant to message him saying I have transferred so the money is in your account, but point out I had offered before so to be honest I do not appreciate him messaging me as if I used him like that when he knows fine well I did.

The money is about £30-40 worth for context.

FYI I also feel the reason he ended it is he saw self hark scars on a part of my body he never spotted before, he noticed this morning and immediately made me uncomfortable with his response so I explained I had been been young (13) when done and I regret it, but his attitude changed straight away.

Sorry for typos I am on my phone!

Yes, he’s a prick. I wouldn’t bother sending him any cash either, I’d just block and delete.

You’re not going to see him again, so don’t worry about it.

I wouldn’t bother sending him money – who cares? The scar thing you can only speculate about but again, you won’t in a few dates and have decided not to take it further so his opinion’s not important, move on.

Oh dear OP, think you were expected to be devastated and beg for another chance 😂 being told it’s mutual and he ain’t all that seems to have dented his ego.

Shame. Don’t transfer any money either, what are you supposed to say? ‘Thank you for spending money on our dates —when you thought you were going to get lucky— and I offered every time to split the bill?’ @Block and move on. Better fish in the sea!

You've had 6-7 dates and most have been at home?

Is this because of Covid or his he just a skinflint?

Because of covid, but now I am wondering skinflint given the cheapness of these dates and he’s got his nickers in a twist! Annoying though because when I have constantly said let me know amount he has laughed and been like ‘what, for £4.50??’ Etc and to leave it... clearly he didn’t mean that!

He's doing it because he is insulted you didn't like his personality. He obviously thought he was gods gift. I would have probably sent a laughing face and blocked him for his pettiness.

Mark him down as a prick and then onto better things! Don't waste another second thinking about him.

Yes, he's a prick. Forget about him

Hes prick of the highest order . When you told him your reason for feeling like not carrying on he didnt like it , bruised his ego , he wanted you to probably harp on about how you think you should carry on and see how it goes and he would get his ego massaged then wouldn't. Dont pay him any money . If he asks tell him to go a fuck his grandmothers aunt . And block him

Ignore him - you're well shut of him. If it was £30 over seven dates, he wasn't exactly a big spender, was he? Let him go and count baked beans one by one for someone who'll appreciate it!

Last of the big spenders.

Forget

What a vindictive little man
It can only get better

You weren't sufficiently distraught by him dumping you. so he's demanding money to get a reaction. Just block him.

Aye, he sounds a right prick.

Keep the money, buy something nice for yourself and block him. Don't waste time on trying to figure him out.

Fuck that guy and don't even think about sending him money. What a little prick he is. Block and forget.

Sometimes I wonder what goes on in people's heads. Did he give you any inkling that be begrudged buying the food at the time OP?

Tell him to sod off

If he ended it because of old self harm scars he is a prick. I have them too, no one has ever mentioned them to me. I once told my ex husband about them in our early days and that was it(he asked).

If he ended it because he resented spending money on you he is a prick. You are better off without him.

Yes, a total prick. I would give him the money personally then block him on every platform. Can't stand tight people.

Oh my god 🙈I am so embarrassed for him! Yes, what an arse he is.

It's not the money so much as the response, especially for a man of 33.

But...... I cannot be the only person wondering what on Earth he cooked /bought over 7 dates that equates to £60/£70. 🤣🤣

He is NOT impressive.

Don't transfer anything, you thanked him and offered at the time. He is just sore that this was mutual and trying to keep a dialogue going. Onwards!

Massive prick.

Keep your money and save your energy

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

He's doing it because he is insulted you didn't like his personality. He obviously thought he was gods gift. I would have probably sent a laughing face and blocked him for his pettiness.

100% this. Poor mans ego can’t take hearing that he is anything less than perfect!

Don’t send him any money.
Sounds like he got what he wanted, and is now moving onto the next.

And block him.