He's throwing me out today with 7 yr old daughter

[alittleone2]

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You need to find out for sure if he changed the locks. What a fucker if he really has.

Where is your dd now? You will need to have something sorted before you pick her up won't you?

If you tell the council you are being made homeless they will try to get you sorted. My mum had to do this & she got a house within 4 days. For those 4 days she stayed with my sister in a 2 bedroom house where 4 people lived. We think the cramped space helped her get housed so quickly.

I think (and I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong) that if you can prove that you live there, and he has changed the locks, you can get the police to go with you to break in and get your stuff out.

I'm sure I've heard this somewhere before.

But obviously, they would need proof, otherwise there's nothing to stop every tom dick and burglar from using this excuse to get the cops to do their dirty work for them

I really think as though you need to get away for sometime. From the sounds of it you are a really capable woman. Do as other posters have suggested - get the paperwork, your stuff, your DD and get out.

And leave the shitty cat.

if you could actually get in - necessary paperwork, passporks birth certificats - anything likley to be used as ID when you are applying for benefits or have to go to council.

look on entitledto.com for any benefits you may be entitled to.

who looks after his daugher after school? does he have custody

What kind of bloke would make his partner and dd homeless??
What a wanker, sorry your going through this

You poor thing! He sounds like an arse.
I second what others have said plus make sure you cancel any direct debits or such you are paying for the bills. Hope you get sorted x

Listen to Custy- she knows about housing!

Aslso Edam is right about the house, but even if you decuide to let it go.... I did that with my ex rather than become 'attached' to him for years of fighting amd stress, and although we have ahd ahrd times I have never ever regretted it. I furnished that house, paid all the legal fees to buy it, contributed to the mortgage- and that worth every penny to eventually rid myself of the prat!

Shelter have a helpline, they can take a bit of getting through to, but are V V good.

Hugs XX You KNOW you are best rid of this man, he's bad news. Might be wroth tipping off DSD's Mum though, as the house with the cat etc does not sound appropriate for him to have a child in- even if she can't cope there are limits!

Ring the council

Good point from custy about them being less quick to help if you have a place to stay, even if it's temporary

They will put you in a B&B

Ring your bank, stop all money

PDQ

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(oh and the threats are abusive so womens aid worth a look too btw- sounds like quite nasty emotional and financial abuse, tbh)

please ring the council beofore it shuts.

good luck

Do you have the internet at home so you can chat to us if you need to?
Definatley ring the council before you go, even if he hasnt done it you will know where you stand.
Good luck

what an awful situation, dont mean to sound harsh but its sounds for the best. I can only echo what everone else has said.

alittleone, i'm not far from you, i'm in dagenham, if you want to chat (not on here) or meet up just to get things off your chest then email me

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At least, if needed, your dd can stay with the c/minder tonight, that's always something.

But even if he hasn't changed the locks, I think you know the relationship is dead in the water, don't you?

There's no point arguing & arguing with him. Ask him if you can get in to get your stuff before he destroys it & then tell him bye. Your dd will miss his dd but he is the one who has made all this happen.

with custy on this hun, you need to ring the council, and if he has changed the locks then you need to phone the police and tell them he is unlawfully holding your belongings.

Make sure you notify all of the service providers (electricity etc) that you are no longer resident at the house and therefore no longer paying the bills - give them his name.

Have you wrung the council?

even if he hasn't changed the locks i think you should leave anyway he sounds like a complete toss pot.

Would one of the blokes form work go around to yur haose with you and see what is happening?

can you imagine the cat shit situation by the weekend?

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Oh thank God for your SIL, good luck tonight and do let us know how you get on xx

Good luck tonight and glad you've got somewhere to stay. One thought, try Epping Citizen's Advice Bureau. The number is 01992 574989 and the lines are open from 5-7pm tonight so maybe you can speak to them on the way home.

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Good luck, he sounds horrible.