Should I ask her?

[ChangedABitForThisOne]

I've been with my current partner for around 2 and a half months now - we we're friends for about 6 months prior to that.

Things are going well between us, but she has very close contact with her ex. She's the one who broke it up, and I know that he calls her frequently and she speaks to him. She's also told me that he still likes her, but there's no feeling on her side and that they're good friends. I think the relationship broke down because he had emotional issues - and some of their contact now is working through that.

I'm a bit uneasy with this, especially as she recently told me he's one of her best friends. Being a guy, I know I can't be friends with an ex who I still had strong feeling for, but I trust her, so I haven't really commented on the situation.

Tonight, I was looking through her strava, and I noticed that 4 weeks ago she cycled to the street her ex's lives on, and then logged a cycle back 5 hours later, after 10:30 pm. She didn't mentioned this to me, but checking out messages from that night, we text periodically why she was there.

If I'm brutally honest, this makes me feel really uneasy. As I said above, things had been going really well. Should I ask her about this?

The way I discovered it is a bit weird, and I don't know if it will look like I'm some sort of stalker - I seriously wasn't looking for anything like this.

[ChangedABitForThisOne]

@doubleaces89 please. Your comments alone show you know little about drugs. The ‘drugs’ mentioned in this thread are legal to buy. They sell it openly on the net. Does that still make it bad?

Or are only ‘legal’ drugs ok, you know, the ones which have been shown to be much more damaging than many of those which are currently illegal.


Check out prof Nutts Lancet paper: “ Drug harms in the UK: a multicriteria decision analysis” and please read up on the war on drugs, Chasing The Scream by Johann Hari is a good start from a light reading perspective.

Go read that and we’ll chat. People utilise drugs for many reasons, and many lives ‘destroyed’ by drugs would have been destroyed by something else due to the make up of the person taking the drugs.

Emotive illogical stuff isn’t really productive.

[MrsBrunch]

Gosh what a lot of angst from both of you.

Just remind yourself that relationships are supposed to be fun. You should support each other and enhance each other lives, not bring all this mess into it.

It feels like you need to open the curtains, let some light in, throw open the windows and breathe.