Social media stalking?

[alm23x]

Hi, it's my first post here so be kind!! Lol. Also still learning all the abbreviations so go easy on me with your replies 😂

Basically I'm just wondering how much interest your partners / SO's take in your social media posts - whether this be what you share, pictures, statuses, just in general?
For example - how many likes you get, how often you post, who likes your things, who follows you etc.

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You should take half of the help to buy money out of the joint account.

Good luck today OP you’ve got this!!!!

Good luck today OP! Thinking of you!

Good luck today you are a brilliant and resourceful lady.

Good luck today. You're going to be fine. It might not feel like it right now but you are being incredibly strong.

Turning off my phone now, have made sure 'find my device' is off, deleted all social media from the phone and will turn off GPS. Will hopefully be able to come back on tonight or whenever when I feel ready to turn it back on with a changed sim, and make sure it's safe etc. Thank you ALL again so much, you've been my virtual cheerleaders and I will never ever forget the kindness you've all shown me, not to mention all the amazing advice. See you on the other side! Xxxxx

Good luck, Alm! xx

Good luck

You could try wiping the phone by restoring to factory settings?

Good luck @alm23x

Good luck, Alm. Wishing you all the very best for today, have been following your journey on here and you have been so strong. X

Good luck op, I’ve just read your whole thread and youve been very strong. You will look back in time and be very proud of yourself for this last week or two and the ones to come, you are setting your children up for finding healthy relationships.

Thinking of you all day today @alm23x

Good luck today Alm we are all thinking of you and rooting for you. I read your whole thread today and it immediately transported me to ten years ago where it took me two years to find the strength to leave an abusive relationship. Every single thing you’ve said I can totally remember and I remember the feelings too. I just wanted to tell you, it was hard to escape, really scary but ten years on I am just the happiest, happiest person I could ever imagine. I have a beautiful happy family, happy marriage, wonderful career and none of this wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t stay strong to finally get away from him. So much wonderful stuff awaits you on the other side, just keep going and we’re here to hold you up xxx

Fly and be free, @alm23x! You strong, brave Mama!!! Your kids will be so thankful later!!!

I've just read the whole thread, and want to wish you well for today. You are so strong and you should be so so proud of yourself for getting out. I hope the shelter is okay, and that you do feel like a weight is lifted when you are in and settled. You will get through this xx

Lots of luck my lovely. You've been so brave, and you are changing the cycle and the future of your children. Well done.

I'm so pleased you have been encouraged by this thread and been able to stay so strong and focused. Even when you felt low you've managed to remain strong enough to keep moving forwards. This is the beginning of a new and safe live for your and your children. Well done, you are amazing and you're breaking a generational cycle of abuse. You're not only saving yourself but also generations to come. You should be so proud of yourself and hope you realise what an amazing achievement this is.

Wow. You are an amazing woman and mother x

I’ve read the whole thread today - you are incredible

Hope you've settled in ok. Thinking of you and your dc xxx

Ive been with my partner 3 years and we are so uninterested in social media and what the other does on it we only become FB friends recently. I still have photos of my ex h on there and have never bothered to take them down. Hes never said anything. No idea whether hes even looked. He has Twitter and i don't. I have insta and i dont think he does.

We both have kids with other people so are often texting ex partners etc and so you can't be a jealous person in that situation or you would drive yourself mad.

So no-his controlling you through your social media one of your few outlets into the world is not normal.

Thinking of you @alm23x Hope you and the kids are settling in ok. Be kind to yourself and take all the support offered, the people at the refuge are experts and will probably know in advance how you'll be feeling now and how you'll react to your new situation. Take care

Hey I'm here, I'm settled and I'm okay! Thank you so much for every single comment, I appreciate them so much . Have felt really overwhelmed today but can feel it easing off now and I feel like a weight has been lifted. I've broken down to pretty much anyone and everyone that's been kind to me today, and found that talking face to face to someone about it all is so much harder emotionally than all the talking I've been doing over the phone. Everyone seems lovely. Have met some of the other ladies & their children...that was overwhelming as I don't have much confidence so being surrounded by so many people I don't know is hars. We've got two bedrooms, a bathroom & then a small kitchenette with a sink, fridge, microwave. No WiFi in the rooms and my Tele doesn't work so evenings are gonna be long and boring! But il live lol. Lounges and playrooms are communal. I was "brave" and went down to the communal lounge this evening and so glad I did...The kids have already made friends and one of the women is going to show me around the local area tomorrow - parks, shops, schools etc. Keep getting a weird feeling that I've made the wrong choice coming here but I think that's because I can't shake the guilt of making the kids go no contact with 'him'. X

@furble thank you for sharing that with me . Stories like yours fill me with such hope about going forward! So glad you got out and have a lovely life now. You're amazing Xxx