Why is my cheating boyfriend stringing me along?

[RedVixen]

I found out my boyfriend of 4 years has been cheating on me for a few months with his work colleague. I confronted him after finding sexual messages/videos between them and he said he was sorry, and he can't believe he'd ever hurt someone he loves. However, he says he likes this other girl, and she obviously really likes him. I said he should go and be with her then, but he says he doesn't know what he wants. We haven't officially ended the relationship but he keeps saying he needs space from both of us to figure out how he feels. Why won't he just end it with me and then go off with the other girl? Why string me along?

why are you letting him decide
kick the fucker out

Because he wants both

His new fuck

And you in case she doesn't work out

What do you want. Do you want to sit around forever waiting for him to decide which of you is better? He is stringing you both along. Get rid. Do you live together.

Been there and I strongly advise getting rid of him now! Text him right now and tell him it’s over. Do your future self this massive favour, if he’s not sure he wants you now he never will be and this will happen again. I’m sorry but you can get through this, you are not losing anything that’s worth having

Its called having your cake and eating it

Because your letting him.

He's stringing you along because you are allowing him to. He wants to have his cake and eat it. Pick up your self respect and tell the cheating fucker to do one.

Needs space from both of you indeed? Time to 'test her out' more like. Grim.

Take the power away from him & tell him it’s over. Don’t put up with being treated like shit.

I think the more important question here is why are you allowing him to string you along?

Why are you letting him string you along? Why would you want to be with someone who has to think about whether they want to be with you? Find your self respect, take control of the situation and dump him!

All of the above. Fuck that. Cake and eat it !! And if he can't decide he can't think much of you. Have done self respect and take control. Bin him

Bin him.

He's doing it because he gets a kick out of knowing he has two women.

Because he wants to keep shagging her for a while and then go back to you. Are you going to let him?

Why are you allowing him to string you along? Raise your standards.

As paddy mcguiness would say. "The power is in your hands" Bin the fucker. You're worth so much more.

He’s treating you like shit because you’re letting him.

Bloody don’t put up with it and dump the tosser

Get rid, OP.

You're stringing yourself along now. Take the POWER back and kick the cunt out. Never EVER take him back. EVER. See a therapist as this isn't an easy situation but your self esteem is really low.

So he cheated on you for four years and you’re waiting for him to decide what HE wants?!

So he has been cheating on you and what...you're supposed to feel sorry for him because poor wee should doesnt know what he wants? Aww diddums.

Seriously op he is a fucking bastard who doesnt care a jot about you or your feelings. He doesnt get to choose. Tell him to sling his hook. And drop her a message to let her know what he has being doing too...and that you've dropped him like the hot steaming pile of cheating shite he is.

*poor wee soul

Please, do yourself a favour. Get rid. Why would he stop seeing you if he can have his cake and eat it? If you allow this then he will have both. He will take much more in the future and more liberties than just extra fanny. Only if you let him though. You are worth SO MUCH MORE!

Chump Lady explains the Cake Theory for cheaters:
www.chumplady.com/2012/04/the-unified-theory-of-cake/

You need her website in your life.

Because neither of you are making him? Why only have one woman when 2 women are willing to wait and unfortunately I expect plead for him??
Urghhhh he’s be delete blocked within the hour!

Block him and move on. You're worth more than this. Find someone lovely like you deserve.