I can’t believe this. Actually I probably can.
4 years ago I uncovered my DH was a porn addict, and through this ‘habit’ phoned prostitutes multiple times a day for a kick.
I first discovered by catching him on a suspicious call.
From there I checked phone bills, internet history etc. I checked his location on his phone and I couldn’t pin him down to visiting any of these. But he did admit to visiting a ‘sauna’ type place on various occasions. So no concrete evidence of physical cheating.
Why did I stay? Because I was 6m pregnant with our second child. He did all the begging and started seeing a counsellor. He moved out for 3m then slowly he started visiting more just before the baby came and we fell back in to a relationship.
Part of his ‘recovery’ was to put restrictions on his phone, enable find my friends, share his phone and bank statements every months.
After a year of therapy we were blissfully happy. There was never any suspicious behaviour. We have what most would see as a very lucky life. 2 beautiful children. We own a few very successful businesses. We are financially in an excellent position. Great families and friends on both sides. Our sex life is excellent, very adventurous and passionate at least 4/5 times a week.
I have just come home 20m early from an appointment with our youngest and he was downstairs watching porn via the internet on the TV.
I am devastated. He lied first of all but he knew I’d caught the screen before he switched it off.
I’ve made him leave as I know we can’t come back from this. He is a compulsive liar who is NEVER going to change. But I’m heartbroken. We are (well I thought we were) so in love. To top it off we only got married 3 months ago.
If he had a normal relationship with porn it wouldn’t be an issue. But he doesn’t and part of his recovery was to completely abstain from it, like an alcoholic would with alcohol.
He’s crying down the phone to me what do I want him to do. Just be a fucking decent human being you cunt.
There’s no going back is there ?