Hi I have had a very long abusive marriage you might wonder why people just don't get out at the first sign
But unfortunately it's not as simple as that
On one part I do blame myself for being soft with an easy going personality ,
He obviously picked up on that and a world wind of ups and a very lot of downs later , after experiencing all kinds of , physical ,mental emotional abuse .
keeping me away from family and I have no friends
I've really woke up to him and I see him for what he really is
for a long time I blamed myself I lacked confidence and the last thing I wanted to do was argue especially in front of the kids and I would do anything to keep him happy
While reading on the internet about abusive relationships I came across a topic all about narcissism, I was completely dumbfounded because while reading it it was as if it was describing my husband it was like reading a manual all about him
All these years later our home has never been on our names and is now in trust for our grown up children he has done it like that to save guard himself
The business that we have ran there over the years is in both of our names but the money from that business gets paid into a bank account solely in his name and I have never received a penny of that
He also has our live time savings all hid up so I can't get hold of that either
The problem Is when I do leave with our 10 year old son I'll have no where to live I'll be taking him away from his school I'll be leaving my husband with the business the home and the money he will get him self a solicitors and I'll lose everything
Elainnie