Ignored after confronting upsetting behaviour

[Realitea]

SIL launched into a big tirade at dh the other night which really upset us both. It’s not the first time either. The problem she has this time is that by ‘sticking to the rules’ (regarding Covid) we’re damaging our dd’s education. (Dd recently had Covid symptoms so couldn’t go to school until test came back clear)
There is a lot of background to this and we’ve had accusations before for many things that don’t make sense/aren’t true.
I decided to finally stand up to her and sent a message which was polite but firm, it said I do not tolerate this kind of behaviour and we are good parents doing the best for our dc.
It went completely ignored. We next got a message changing the subject, no reference to what I said. Now I feel even more hurt that what I said has just been ignored, I was expecting an apology really. Now I feel that to them, I’m not even worth acknowledging. At least I had my say. How would others take this?

So you blatantly, publicly on a group WhatsApp shit stirred.

Keep saying how proud of yourself you are.

Wouldn't try and smooth over the misunderstanding.

Then phone the police and try and say he's coercive?

FFS you sound like you've been reading too many of the posts from women on here who have been genuinely been mistreated and you're acting out as though you're a victim.

I feel sorry for your oh with his family and you surrounding him.

You sound unhinged.

No, I asked police for advice and was TOLD it was coercive actually
I didn’t shit stir, I stood up to an accusation
I have only taken advice from professionals I haven’t been swayed in any way by posters here, all they have done is support me
I’m not unhinged I am completely normal but thanks for joining in with the abuse

@Realitea

No, I asked police for advice and was TOLD it was coercive actually I didn’t shit stir, I stood up to an accusation I have only taken advice from professionals I haven’t been swayed in any way by posters here, all they have done is support me I’m not unhinged I am completely normal but thanks for joining in with the abuse

There was one police officer who couldn't understand why I'd called the police and just stood around looking like we were wasting his time

Sounds like he saw through the crap tbh.

Not every argument is due to DV or coercion.

Though much of what you've said sounds like you're as manipulative as you state his family are... Maybe time for some self reflection.

And sorry I don't see you as some sort of shrinking violet at all.

SIL is that you?

It must be SIL
Evidence of further abuse if It is

I’m not manipulative at all, I just stood up for myself for the first time after years of seeing DH being told what to do and for me being made to feel like an outsider and being accused before for things that weren’t true. People are allowed to stand up for themselves. I explained my problem to the police and they were the ones who said to report him. Maybe it was over the top of them but they were very clear that’s what he was doing (and his family) so I did what they suggested
If you have a problem with the law then don’t take it out on me.

Maybe step back Solomummy? The OP is going through a hard time. Whether you're right or wrong, just give the OP some support or move on eh. You've said your piece.

Don't pay any attention OP.

Continue your focus on keeping your children safe and away from a family whose oxygen is drama and angst.

You are doing great.

Thanks billy, I’m glad the majority of people on here can see what’s happened and give me some much needed support!

Quite frankly I don't see why your SIL felt she should even comment on your decision not to send your DC to school. It's none of her business.

It's not her place to comment.

The family seem dysfunctional and your SIL interfering instead of focusing on her own life is very sad indeed.

Exactly!