So, been dating since end May. I havent been in a relationship for years. He has had a string of relationships. He tells me he loves me. He's told me he has rushed in the past. Lots of effort initially.
Slowly im losing confidence and have nearly ended it a few times. Either it is a communication mismatch or he could be potentially controlling. Im very wary having being in a controlling relationship before. I want healthy boundaries and him to respect them. So here is the issue,which was evident quite early one. He likes to talk about himself.. if i try to contribute to the conversation he feels im interrupting and has mentioned that! so I listen, a lot, almost dare not join in. He doesnt ask much about me apart from putting me on the spot 'tell me about yourself' but which time im a little dumbfounded. I dont feel heard, or loved, or cherished. There are other examples. Eg texting, i will say something and he will respond hours later with something else. So, I dont feel validated. I keep thinking it can change. Its causing resentment and frustration. He seems genuinely upset when I bring it up. I dont have communication issues with other people, I feel i can adjust and read them. Any ideas? it cant be all me but I am questioning myself. Off for a video call with him so I'll be back later. The spark is there, the banter and communication is failing.