DP cross there's no food - part 2

[droopyears]

I didn't realise I'd have to start a new thread - it's amazing the amount of people that have offered advice / made me laugh, it's appreciated

It was the strangest thing! Yes Yeo Valley yoghurts and milk

I've not been able to change the locks but I've double locked the door this afternoon, as he doesn't have a key for the bottom lock

I do however, have his bike at mine (which won't fit in my car, only his)

@droopyears

I'm off tomorrow so I will bag his stuff up and drop to his sisters, send him a message, and have a chat to my youngest. What a nice day off

It's a rubbish day off, but when it's done it's done. No reason for him to come round and the stupid bike will stop damaging your shins.

Come the weekend you'll be ready for some quality chill time!

It’s really shitty OP but the token stealing food leech is not for you. You my dear are going to be much much happier when you aren’t carrying such a horror.

No, no, tomorrow will be a great day.
A day for getting rid of all the dead weight.
A day of stepping into freedom and happiness.
What's not to like?

Why do you need to message him? Don't bother. Block him and move on!

I’m so excited for you @droopyears, imagine all the extra money you’re going to be able to save (not to mention yeokens!) that you can then use for nice things for yourself and DC!

Don’t “explain” why are breaking up in the message just tell him he is dumped and cannot contact you or your children.

He has his own children, he can play online games or whatever with them.

Yup. Echo @AdoraBell.

You don't owe him any explanation; just get rid of Snack Monster Cocklodger stealing your kids' treats / food (which you bought in first place).

Back to enjoying time with your children without his arse interruption! Xx

Bet his sister says something along the lines of “It’s about time!!!”

What a chancer he is

Think of it as yogurt gate

You will feel much better once all his stuff is out of your house.

I think that it might be a good idea to stop reading what we all think and really focus on your life and what you want. Four years is such a huge investment of your time and you need to be very sure why you are doing things and where you want to end up. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It doesn’t matter what strangers on the internet think it matters what you think. If you have someone you can talk it through with in RL do that.

Wow he is unbelievable. How rude to eat your food and tell you what else to buy. How awful he is, to not want to play one game with your child. Especially when he been gaming with his own! Disgusting pig if a man. Ask his sister to collect his stuff including bike. Tell him he needs to post the key through your letter box. You' ll find your family will suddenly have more food and one to one time. Well done, stay strong.

Good luck 💐

@Itisbetter

I think that it might be a good idea to stop reading what we all think and really focus on your life and what you want. Four years is such a huge investment of your time and you need to be very sure why you are doing things and where you want to end up. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It doesn’t matter what strangers on the internet think it matters what you think. If you have someone you can talk it through with in RL do that.

Four years is such a huge investment of your time

Sunk cost fallacy.

Where do you think OP would be in another four years if she stayed with this freeloader? Still bankrolling his food. Still having him tantrumming and upsetting her DC when she didn't toe the line, and happened to be short on food one evening. Still strolling in as and when it suited him- which turned into most evenings. Wednesday being his favourite day as it is OP's shopping day. Still dictating what the family ate.

Posters have been utterly shocked at his entitled antics. OP has only now wised up and realised what was happening.

He's now reduced to stealing from her to make a point - that what is hers is also his - with zero contribution from him.

Yeah there's always one! [sceptical]

Most of us here OP think you deserve better

He's a very selfish, entitled, domineering freeloader.

He's ok with being derogatory towards her son and potentially upsetting him. Said son thinks he acts like a child - says a lot when a child thinks an adult acts like a child. He's ok with contacting ops you get child outside her supervision when they're essentially finished/on v poor terms .. which is totally inappropriate.

He tramps all over op - eating at here constantly without contributing much or anything to costs, adding what he wants to her kids snack list, playing his games console and refusing to even play one game with her child, in her child's home at that. When he's told op will drop items of his somewhere, he ignores her and enters her home without her express permission. As above, he gets in contact with her child without her permission as well .. he has absolutely no respect and thinks her rules her and her home (while contributing nothing).

He's like a selfish teenager. It's rather obvious why his relationship with his kids mother broken down, and it seems like the mother he lives with can barely stand him some of the time either.

He just uses people and lives off them, while not paying his way for pulling his weight.

*op's younger child

And the irony of all this using and freeloading is that he earns a bit more than op.

You have to wonder what contributions he makes at his mother's house.

He's got his ex looking after his kids most of the time, he lives with his mum and hosts his kids there (no doubt the mum ends up dragged into entertaining and paying for his kids when he has them), and until very recently he had op providing lodging, food, sex, company etc. for free. Even then he expects to act like a single teenage boy with his games console at hers when it suits him.

What a selfish, selfish user of a "man".

And we haven't even touched on him essentially stealing op's food discount tokens.

He just helps himself to whatever he likes and clearly thinks op and her sons are beneath him. Serbs like he thinks everyone is beneath him and there for his use/convenience.

I'd actually wager he has a personality disorder. His behaviour is so marked a d consistent.

@lockdownalli and @TwentyViginti I think you’ve misunderstood the intent of my post. OP is living through a really hard time and her life looks very different than it did a fortnight ago. My opinion of her situation has been expressed throughout the thread and at no point has been anything like your interpretation. Real grown up people with real grown up lives are not obligated to live them out in public for you and while I think OP was looking for somewhere to talk about how her Ps behaviour makes her feel I don’t necessarily think it’s helpful now, as I would want space to make sure it was the choice that was absolutely what I wanted.

@Accidentalaccountant - re Yogurt Gate spat tea all over keyboard - snicker....

OP Please review PP's advice on how to monitor youngest DC's online Gaming access. Please block Token thief; no doubt he's keeping tabs on you by manipulating your youngest.

I can picture him turning up on your doorstep, trembling lip (rumbling tummy) trying to present a Token* of his love: e.g a subscription to his favourite a to subscription "Cycling Enthuisast Magazine (for those that may eventually remove cycle from hallway / conservatory / best place to piss off / injure all but owner)" or online cookery course; all courtesy of cashed in Yeo Tokens!

*see what I did there?!

A token of his love! 😂

@coulis

It's interesting the op only comes back with updates enough to get everyone riled up.

Not true. She's posted plenty of updates with no such content.