To be fed up

[FlorentineAz]

I’m so sick of my boyfriend’s behaviour - like some kind of under sexed teenager.

He has made it quite clear to me that he thinks my looks are a 5/10. He has told me I have a big nose and flat boobs.

He also seems to delight in telling me how attractive his friend’s girlfriends are. I have asked him time and time again not to comment on the attractiveness of other women and to save it for his male friends but he just does it again and again.

He’s like some sort of 48 year old teenager. I’ve just had enough and he’s just commented that his friends new girlfriend is very good looking. I didn’t ask him this and don’t want to know. Especially when he’s made it clear he thinks I’m not pretty.

I’ve just told him I’m fed up of his behaviour and feel like going and finding a man who actually thinks I’m attractive. Am I overreacting?

Also just to add...teenagers don't act like that. Abusers act like that!

Yeah, get rid

Lime n lemon is spot on...

Fucking hell you deserve way better than this prick.
Why would you want to be with someone who compares you to other women and blatantly disrespects you and picks flaws with you. Get rid of him, 48 year old brad Pitt is he

Yes you can go and find someone who finds you attractive, who worships the ground you walk on.

Why is he still there? Tell him to fuck off.

WHY ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH THIS??

Bin him.

Why would you be with a man who treats you with such contempt? I wouldn't even bother dumping him, I'd say nothing and block his number. He doesn't deserve another second of your attention.

It's up to you. He treats you like this because you give him permission by staying with him. Nothing is going to change.

Only you can change yourself - cut him out, build up a lot of self respect, find something to build your self esteem (hobby, training etc...) and when you're in a good place, you'll be ready for a good man who'll treat you well.

He sounds very immature rating you by looks of whatever out of ten. This is the sort of stupid thing abusive men do, go on any internet forum just for men/dating and you'll see this sort of dehumanising of women type behaviour. It's creepy OP. He's shallow and nasty. Fellas who think like this often have other horrible misogynistic personality traits. It's making me shudder just thinking about it. Please leave him you can do so much better.

[quote FlorentineAz]@MarriedtoDaveGrohl I’m sorry to be dense but I don’t understand what you mean. 🙂[/quote]
Well I did. Him finding other women attractive is the least of your problems. Let him find another woman full stop

"Fuck off penfold im off to get a Dangermouse" try that.Dump the waste of space

How do you respect that? He's an arse hole. Bin

Thank God you don't live with him.

I think you should genuinely take a look at your first post, and read it over and over again.

Obviously he is disgusting piece of shit, and is enjoying putting you down and the payoff he gets with it - which is that you feel weak and worthless and horrible about yourself.

The question is why are YOU putting up with that. Why is this what you have chosen? He is open with his horrible behaviour towards you yet you are willingly accepting it, even though you don't live together. There are mean, cruel and selfish people everywhere, it is easy to find one and attach yourself like a limpet to them. Most people wouldn't sacrifice themselves like that, but you have. You have done that voluntarily, and continue to do so despite the fact your living arrangements are separate so he has no physical hold on you. Why is that?

I think your question is wrong. In answer to the question "why is he doing this" the answer is because he is a piece of shit that bases his self worth on putting down women. This is not a difficult question. He won't change. That is his nature. The question is, why are you staying with this person and trying to justify it to yourself?

Obviously this whole situation is his fault. But he doesn't care, your degradation is a win for him. So what are you going to do about it, for yourself? How are you going to resolve it, for you? You don't respect yourself, so you are just fine with the fact that he doesn't respect you either. That's the real problem you need to look at.

I don't mean to be harsh with this post but believe it needed to be said.

What did I just read?? You should have dropped him the moment he said you were a 5/10.

Have you posted about him before? I distinctly remember the 5/10 score....

No I don't think you're over reacting, you deserve better and be treated with respect. No one deserves to put you down, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and clearly he isn't the one. Find someone who appreciates you for you.

He’s insecure , he knows he’s not attractive , he probably knows he has a shit personality too . He’s constantly putting you down , making you feel like you are lucky he’s with you etc , because he wants you to feel grateful that he is . That way , you are much less likely to leave . Do yourself a big favour , ditch the dead weight and find someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are .
Agree with other pp who said before you go , make sure you list every one of his negative physical characteristics. What’s good for the goose ....

When your in love everyone's partner is a 10 out of 10
He is using you, Sorry.

Ask yourself this though what mark would you give him out of 10?
I think you'll find your answer there or there about ;-)

Most people are more attractive than him in reality but I would never tell him this or comment about the attractiveness of his friends. I mean what normal person thinks this is a good idea?

Exactly. No one.

He is fucking with your head and getting off on the spectacle of watching you turning yourself inside out each time he rates you or tells you how attractive other women are.

There is no rational discussion to be had with someone like this: for the sake of your sanity and your self esteem, dump him.

Hello, it didn’t go well. I’m afraid that I wanted to have a calm discussion with him but he kept talking over the top of me and dismissing what I was saying as over-reacting.

I’m afraid that I lost it and shouted at him that he was a liar and told him never to contact me again. I feel so bad because I hate people shouting at me so I’m ashamed of myself that I did it to someone else.

I’m not actually sad that the relationship is over though which is strange.

He deserved a bit of a shout OP. Well done to you! Treat yourself to something nice today x

Good for telling him to get lost. He deserved being shouted at for being a mean prick.
Block him so he won't be trying to weasel his way back later on.
You did the right thing!

You didn't shout at him you stood up for yourself in an entirely appropriate manner. Well done!!!!