Hollywood wax and food

[Octoberbreeze]

Name change since talked about partner before and sil followed me

Partner suddenly asked me if I would consider a full wax off said it would be a real turn on ....
And food play then

Does it really hurt?
Thinking he ought to also take his off in order of fairness

I think food play is a right laugh but don't use anything dairy based as everything will smell of off milk afterwards.

I wish people wouldn't go around saying that having no pubes in more hygienic.

I really don’t get why so many women think a man preferring them to look prepubescent is a good thing.

@SoulofanAggron -

Of course you have every right to keep your hair and not have ithers push you to do something you do not want to do.

l don’t pretend not to be influenced by fashion, I frquent the Style and Beauty section on MN regularly. But l am not a slave to trends that are not for me. For example there are clothing items, I do not wear and (head) hairstyles l would not opt for.

But my decision to first remove my body hair was made in my mid to late teens (40 s now) after discussions with my now late mum (very much a strong feminist) and my elder sister. Not a male in sight. I have not been subject to male coercion to do so, quite the opposite, in the past l have been asked to grow it by some men and l have refused.

Some lesbian women remove their hair too, it’s not just a male driven thing.

OP, pop back and let us know how you get on. The first time, it helps to take a couple of paracetamol before hand.

It’s not more hygienic.

www.nhs.uk/news/lifestyle-and-exercise/many-women-think-shaving-pubic-hair-is-hygienic/

Personally I prefer a trimmed and tidy area and there isn’t much worse than stubble burn on your forehead from giving oral

PS: As for comments about looking prepubescent, my body is not defined by hair alone. My vulva, hips and breasts do not look prepubescent any more than the man next door who shaves his face every day.

Eeeek, don't say "vulva" , put's my teeth on edge.

As for the poster who get stubble burn on his or her forhead from giving oral, your mouth is in the wrong place.

Eeeek, don't say "vulva" , put's my teeth on edge.

Better than vagina meaning vulva.

O shaved my vagina, they could see my vagina ... I don't think so somehow.

Not every adult has hair on their genitals in the first place, body hair varies between ethnicities and yes even down to the genitals. Some people dont have any pubes naturally

So the argument about no hair looking "child like" might apply to some people's preference for it, but it's false to make blanket statements along those lines.

OP if the waxing doesn't work out for you then you could try very close trimming with a bikini trimmer if you haven't tried before. That works best for me.

I think your partner should definitely get waxed as well though so he can also feel the pain!

I'd be questioning why he's attracted to hairless genitals. It's a weird porn thing which men have become into. It makes women look like pre pubescent girls. I find it disturbing men like this. Shows he's way to into porn. It would massively put me off some.

All this pearl-clutching madness about making yourself look like a porn star/pre-pubescent girl... I call BS.
It's a personal choice. If you don't want to do it then don't. Personally I go for Hollywoods regularly, I love the feeling of being hairless down below. I definitley prefer receiving oral when I'm hairless too, I can feel a lot more and I feel a lot more confident, just like women with shaved legs may feel more confident in a short skirt. Have been hairless even when I'm not in a relationship. As I said, it's for me and for no one else.

Some lesbian women remove their hair too, it’s not just a male driven thing.

@StarlightLady Yes, unfortunately, of course some lesbians aren't immune to social conditioning about what a woman should look like. I had a girlfriend who nagged me to shave everywhere. Fuck that. Never again. I don't like receiving oral anyway, so there's even less reason for me to do it (I know that some people claim hair gets in their teeth etc.)

my decision to first remove my body hair was made in my mid to late teens (40 s now) after discussions with my now late mum (very much a strong feminist) and my elder sister. Not a male in sight.

There is no feminist argument for it. A bloke doesn't have to be directly present- women enforce beauty mandates too.

I don't get it? OPs partner didn't order OP to get waxed, he merely said that it would turn him on and asked if she would consider it. OP can say either yes or no. Why are people acting as though he held her at gunpoint?

I've asked my partner to shave before as I like it. I've also asked him to wear a shirt I like, or wear a certain type of perfume that smells good to me. I don't see any issue with that.

To OP, it depends a little on time of the month and the type of hair you have as well. I had it done once and I was in fucking agony, never again. I don't mind going hairless, but wax just ended me. I did go on the first day of my period (terrible choice), and I have thick follicles. Being hairless however I quite like when I can be bothered. Sensation is better.

Food play I've tried once. It was fun, but so messy. Make sure you plan in advance. I agree with your partner that food play would be better without hair, on either of you.

I think it does women a disservice to say that we want to look a certain way due to social conditioning.

Women choose to groom (or not groom) their pubic hair in lots of different ways. There is no done thing or something that everyone is expected to have. I remove mine but certainly don't think I'm expected to do it or that women have to look that way!

Lots of women share stories about how their partner requested they remove their hair. I'm regularly on a sex forum on reddit and there are often posters who shave or wax who have partners who ask them to grow out their bush!! Often they don't want to because they prefer to be bare.

I've shaved all my body hair since I hit puberty more or less, up until 6 weeks ago I had only had a bikini and leg wax n only when I was going on holiday, heard through a friend about the v-mould wax which basically hardens when its applied and removes practically the whole pubic area in 1 go, its painful but only for a couple of seconds, I am going back this week for the second time and cant wait, it's barely even grew back in and where it has the new hair is very fine, the biggest pro though is that I havent had a single lump or bump/ ingrown hair like what you get with shaving.

Everyone is commenting on the hair part but in reference to the food - avoid putting anything sweet near or in the vagina or itll run the risk of giving you a yeast infection @Octoberbreeze. That includes fruit sugars

No to the food play. That's just asking for a yeast infection. Unless you're only using unsweetened natural yoghurt.

@Bbub

Not every adult has hair on their genitals in the first place, body hair varies between ethnicities and yes even down to the genitals. Some people dont have any pubes naturally

So the argument about no hair looking "child like" might apply to some people's preference for it, but it's false to make blanket statements along those lines.

OP if the waxing doesn't work out for you then you could try very close trimming with a bikini trimmer if you haven't tried before. That works best for me.

Some ethnicities don't? This was news to me!

Food play, depends on the food. I always thought would be great. Just turned out messy and a bit rubbish!

Why is it always only women that like to compare hair-free adult female genitals to children's genitals? First of all...ridiculous. Second of all, hair removal has been a thing in many cultures for literally thousands of years. So no, it's not because of weird fetishes or pressure from pornography that women choose to remove their body hair. Lastly, some of us naturally just don't grow that much body hair - are we supposed to just tolerate having our genitals compared to children's? And tolerate having our husbands being called closet paedophiles?

@StarlightLady

If I’m giving a man oral and he’s shaved his upper muff, then yeah his stubble is directly in line with my forehead.. unless I’m turned 180 degrees and eyeing up his shaven ballsack..

I think it does women a disservice to say that we want to look a certain way due to social conditioning.

I agree with this completely! I do what I want with my bush and that is remove it all, my boyfriend once asked me to leave it so I skipped two waxes because I didn’t see the harm - but then realised I preferred it all gone. That’s nothing to do with social conditioning, it’s me having the right to do what I want with my body. It’s no different to what OPs partner has asked, if she’s willing she can have the wax and decide if she likes it or not for herself.

I went in for a Hollywood until I had my daughter and as she got older typical 3/4 started to ask questions when I was having a shower and it occurred to me that I wasn’t portraying what would actually happen to her. Made me reconsider.

food play and bacterial vaginosis go hand in hand. strawberry bits are not that easy to rinse out same with banana. then the various cream options totally ruin sheets and setting up a towel wet area to play on totally kills the mood. a hell of a lot of bother whether hairy or hairless.
then there's the veggies, what a total waste of carrots or zucchini's.

Ur vag ( in particular the lips area) feels quite tender bordering on a bruised feeling the following day.