Hi, maybe being a bit dense here but I can't find the current Stately Homes thread and wanted to ask for book recommendations specifically re parenting teens when you're an adult child of a disordered parent. Basically 'How not to screw up your kids like your parents did to you'. I mean, I know not to shout, scream, guilt trip, manipulate, make child feel responsible for your emotions, base all praise on their academic/hobby achievements and not their personal development etc etc etc....but I still have a lot of anxiety that I will turn out like my mother despite all my efforts not to