So this might not be the most direct post but a realisation about my relationship has left me seething and I wondered if anyone has a clue what's going on here or has experienced anything similar.
I've (29F) realised with that after 3 years my bf hasn't contributed anything, he's made no commitment and put basically no effort in to our relationship or building a future. He only moved in with me 6 months ago after me asking him well over a year ago. He moved in to the tiny house which I bought soon after we met and managed to furnish bit by bit, he pays half the bills to me (sometimes late). He's taken over the second bedroom as his office and it's a tip full of boxes because he doesn't have enough storage but he ignored my suggestion to buy new furniture. I don't go in there as it used to be my lovely dressing room and now it's just a mess. The whole house is, there's just not enough space in my small house now two adults are working from home. We were supposed to be ttc now following a conversation 2 years ago. But I've not yet felt secure enough as I've had no proposal or other verification of commitment plus the house is too small. I've brought up us buying a (bigger) house together and showed him mortgage calculations on what we can afford but he won't engage with the conversation.
Final straw: The hoover is broken so I mentioned to him that we need a new one and should go shopping. His response 'you shouldn't get another cordless they aren't as powerful'. That 'you' has left me fuming, does he think I'm responsible for providing our lifestyle and he is doing me a favour by just being here? I felt like telling him he could buy a hoover as I've paid for everything else in the home and I'm not his mother but didn't want an argument. At this point I feel like he's taking the p**s. My family joke and call him my 'lodger' and right now I genuinely feel like that's what he is.