Recently my husband left without warning, leaving me devastated and to care for our very young children.
It has now materialised that he has had an affair and actually the reason he left is because he's met another woman, they're meant to be in love etc. Yes obvious in hindsight I suppose.
But this is completely floored me all over again and I now I feel like I am starting all over again with my grief.
I'm already doing all the practical stuff (lawyers, ducks in row etc).
But my question is to those of you unfortunate enough to go through this yourself, how do I get my head around how much of a dickhead my husband actually is? He certainly wasn't perfect and we'd had issues but I never thought he could be this awful. Not just to have the affair but to actually chose her and leave me and his tiny ones (who he is meant to love so much).
How do I reconcile who I thought he was and who he actually is?
I know eventually I will get through this and feel relief I'm no longer with such a dickhead but right now I'm reeling.
Sadly I know a lot of you have been through similar as it is such a frequent subject on Mumsnet, so it would be useful to know how you eventually accepted who your (ex) husband really is.