Married/ltr how often would your partner have sex

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If they had their way?
And how often do you do it in reality?

DH would love it to be daily but we tend to average 4 times a week. I'm less fussed and could go for twice a week although he takes care to make sure I'm enjoying myself too/isn't forceful or sulky about it.

I'd have it daily, DH would be happy with 3/4 times a week. Generally we do every other day or so.

@Toilenstripes Me too- I like to give it at least a day or two for the semen to come out 😳 and for my PH levels to recover! Plus it would seem like another chore after a while 😆

Average twice a week but only really at weekends so if life gets in the way can be 3 weeks without. I’d like a bit more but oh isn't interested in mid week mornings or evenings.

Both early 50’s and together 28 years

Together 10 years, very rarely do it. Once every 2 months maybe? Did it last week for the first time in 3 months!! We both have very low sex drives

I would like it every day but he’s just not bothered at all.
It makes me sad to think I probably will leave him but I don’t want to be in a sexless relationship.

Got a nearly 2 year old and the last time was when she was conceived.. I'd like it once a week ideally but I think DH could go the rest of his life without touching me again...

Together 6 years, probably 1-2 times a week. we would both like more but with work, kids, family etc were often either tired or just pass in the hallway on the way in and out! A month more of this insanity then things at home should calm and we will have more time for each other

Together 22 years. Once or twice a week, more on holiday less when stressed out. It's been that way for at least 10 years. 2 DC aged 16& 14.

@fatgirlslimmer my sexless marriage is a result of the fact we can’t stand each other anymore. He physically repulses me, I imagine he feels the same. Unfortunately finances (particularly his redundancy last year and refusal to find another job), mean we can’t afford to divorce without huge upheaval for the kids.

So if the average is 2-3 times a week, I've missed out on 1000-1500 goes! Last time was conception of ds who is now nearly 9. Dh accepts life without it, but I realise now I don't want the rest of my life to be like this. I also realise reading these posts that I am NOT selfish for wanting a sex life. The problem is, I don't want sex with dh at all, ever again. So big changes are unavoidable if I don't want to spend the rest of my life like a nun.

Early forties, married 5 years, not had sex or sexual contact in over a year. He just isn’t interested, says it will happen again but doesn’t know when

@edwinbear it must be awful to feel trapped in that way. I do realise that not everyone has sex and as a pp said sometimes this is symptoms of other things in the marriage. Though some couples seem perfectly happy to carry on without it or do not see it as one of their priorities.

I'm by no means an every day person but I do think what @trevthecat says rings true and sometimes that month never arrives where you make that connection again.

we would both like more but with work, kids, family etc were often either tired or just pass in the hallway on the way in and out! A month more of this insanity then things at home should calm and we will have more time for each other

We don't live together but both would love it every day, more than once. In reality it's every time we see each other.

Really surprised by the amount of men who aren't interested in sex with their partners.

He'd probably want it every 3 days on average but sometimes he can go a week without, sometimes wants it every day, it varies. Been together for 14 years. I'm happy with 1-2 times a week.

My libido is not consistent 24/7 or 12 months a year. We are hormone driven.

Early 40s and sexually active since my mid teens; the best sex l have In terms of quality and quantity, has been outside of commited relationships and totally passion driven. Both parties know exactly what they want and go for it. That also requires an element of trust but no monogamy pledges.

Within relationships, maybe say 2 or 3 times a week, usually at weekends, less so in the week, double that when on holiday.

DH would do it everyday or there abouts, I’m happy with twice a week. We probably do 3-4 times per week most weeks and 1-2 when there’s lots of other stuff going on (work/family/illness)

Wonderful to read how many are getting such regular sex. Am lucky to get it once a month. Must do better!

I think DH would like it daily if we could
Before I got pregnant it was once/twice a week - more if we were on holiday haha but now I'm pregnant it's none existent but hoping we can get back into it soon.

Together four years

Once or twice a year usually but nothing this year and it makes me sad. I’ve told DH what I want but he’s made no effort to change. I got fed up of trying and being rejected as it was really damaging my self-esteem.

Together 15 years, reality is every other day ish.
He’d like it every day, I’m happy as it is.

Beentogether 15 years. I think he would probably like it a couple of times most days. Reality is maybe 3/4 times a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less

If I had my way, 3-5 times a week.
If he had his way, once a month or less.
Reality twice a month.