Married/ltr how often would your partner have sex

[theworldhasfallenoutmybottom]

If they had their way?
And how often do you do it in reality?

DH: At least daily
Reality: A couple times a week
Me: Prefer sleep over sex, but am fine with the status quo.😄

My husband and I are both 40 and have been together for 25 years.

I would like sex daily, my husband would probably be happy with once a week or so. We compromise at about 3 times a week, with some occasions where we’ll do it a little more.

Neither of us have particularly high sex drives (although I’m started to think mine might be affected by the pill) so we could easily go a few weeks and not be bothered.

However, when we do do it it’s always amazing and we always say why don’t we do this more often so we do make the effort to at least once a week.

Married 11 years and we average 1-2 times a week. Sometimes more if on holiday and less stressed. We are very touchy-feely anyway (hold hands; touch each other when passing; love you messages during the day). We always talk to each other if one of us feels a bit off. I am satisfied and I do believe he is too.

Married for almost 24 years (together 27).
We’d both like it pretty much daily but DC are older and awake late at night so not enough opportunity.
2/3 times a week in reality, which suits us both.

It was definitely a once every few months job a few years ago before we joined a gym and starting exercising seriously. Improved libido was a very happy side effect.

@borntohula yes it seems like they keep that very quiet with the media only talking about female low libido. I almost wish it was an affair or porn (okay maybe not) as then at least I'd know he has the urge... not wanting it much at all is very unattractive in a man imo (and makes the other partner feel very rejected of course).

@theworldhasfallenoutmybottom

If they had their way? And how often do you do it in reality?

Been together 8 years and it varied to be honest. Sometimes we would go up to about 2 months but then we would be daily for a couple months.sounds odd but we were just tired tbh. Weirdly, now we have twins we have sex more regularly than having gaps which surprises me massively

My ex husband would have been happy for us both to have given up work and have sex and rubber dress up all day and all night. He was obsessed so he didn't get any because he repulsed me with his incessant sexual neediness.

@tiredanddangerous

I have no idea. He never ever initiates but is always happy to go along with it if I do. Problem I feel like he doesn't fancy me at all so have completely lost confidence. Think we've only done it twice this year.

Not sure if this helps but the majority of the time my partner's initiates, mainly because I like it but he did comment that he felt abit unwanted as you say. So every so often I start it just so he doesn't feel that way as I felt really bad.

@borntohula

Really surprised by the amount of men who aren't interested in sex with their partners.

Same here, I know it's a stereotype to think this but I'm surprised too. I suppose it's usually thought that it's the woman not the man.

Over the past 18 months its been once...

Im 38.. not living my best life

Married 11 years, together 15.
He would want to every day. I would be ok once a week.
We compromise and have sex 2-3x a week.
I do get into it once we start and i enjoy it. Its more that sometimes i just need a bit of a push to actually get started.

Married 15 years, together 21 years. We do it once a week. I'd like it twice a week, she's happy as it is. I recently mooted having a lunchtime shag as we are working from home and the kids are at school but the answer was a no!

DH would have it daily, I am happy with every other daily or daily when feeling horny

He'd probably have it more than me, probably a couple of times a week?

We generally do it 3/4 times a month..

Daily would be preference reality

Twice a month at most

We do have 4 children all toddlers and with work were wiped

DH used to want it pretty much every day, but I often rejected him having a lower sex drive, which typically meant 2-3 times a week.

This year though he has simply lost interest and we haven't had sex in several weeks now. I actually suspect he's just bored as I'm not hugely confident and tend to stick to a vanilla routine where he is (was) always wanting to try to try new things and change things up.

DH would like daily, I'm happy with once or twice a week.

DH and I have been together 7 years and have a 2 year old. We have had more sex since we had him! Sex got better for me after I had a baby. It is amazing now and I can orgasm very easily. So strange. We average about 3 times per week usually but when we are both working at home some days and DS is at nursery we have a quickie after lunch. I could have sex twice a day during ovulation week. At weekends we do it when DS has his nap also. So this might become more difficult when he drops the nap.

We have been together 20 years and average once a week. I can't think what you would do to make it not really boring doing it 3 times a week/everyday. What so you do to change it up? Or have we got into a routine that works be therefore it's just samey for us (I'm not complaining about that per se, I enjoy what we do)

5+ times a week atm but we have had phases in life with more or less. I would daily atm tbh