I met someone on Tinder a few weeks ago. He lives over an hour away but seemed keen. We've only met once- had a brilliant date- but have chatted on phone, skyped daily. I like him a lot so far. He tells me he lives with his sister so we can't go to her house unless she's away. He has told me a complicated story that in effect gives him lots of reasons to cancel on me/ not be available. He says his best friend is very ill so sometimes he ends calls fairly abruptly when he needs him, does several late night evening activities. He's supposed to be visiting me at the weekend but keeps emphasising he needs to leave by 5 because he's going to stay at a friend's house. Apparently he stays at one friends house once a week and stays over...a male friend..says they just have a drunken night. He works in a 'respectable job' - something a bit like a headteacher. It all seems a bit odd to me. Obviously we've only just started dating so he can do what he likes but this doesn't sound right, does it? I'm not imaging it, am I? It does sound like there's someone else, doesn't it? I am starting to think sister might be his wife. But he does chat to me loudly every night and skype. Once someone knocked on his door- said it was his sister telling him to be quiet.
I went through some really hard stuff about a year ago- he has been through same. (That bits definitely true- its not something he could lie about). It's something quite rare. I think partly coz of this I feel a real connection to him. I don't want to lose him if he isn't cheating.