Just found a fabswingers message on husband’s watch

[MilkshakeMonkey]

Ok, shouldn’t have looked, but I did - so shoot me if you wish!

Message started with him messaging swing to a 70 number. It then replied saying he was charged £5 for the text, gave him a pin code to enter on fabswingers.com (I’m guessing this isn’t a childrens playground site!) to complete the upgrade.
All done while I was at work.

I am naive and stupid-is this a hook up site or porn? And before you ask, yes he has done online flirting before (ages ago) and promised it would never happen again.

WTF now? Am waiting for some test results which could be life changing. Also we have children.

Hope your ok op x

Op get these test results (they sound serious). If they are in your favour go straight to a solicitor and get your finances in order, make a plan of how you will live without him (Accomodation, support, finances) and then leave him. If possible, take screenshots of any proof you have.

Well you could "set up a sting" yourself. That way you would know for definite. Sounds like this isn't the first time.

@nosswith

After reading the other day about Covid 19 being spread in a south of France resort because of swingers, I'd be very concerned. In addition to the morality of it.

@nosswith be interested to read this article (?)

Woman finds her husband on a swingers site and someone is worried about the morality of him spreading covid. Only on here 😂

OP I’m so sorry. I suggest you take up one of the kind offers on here to message him and see what’s he’s up to / up for.

I really hope it isn’t how it seems. And that your test results are clear

Milkshake, you’ve written about your H’s previous affair. Then later you discovered that he was on Kik and another chat/meet-up site. Now he is on Fabswingers.

Surely he has blown his 2nd (3rd?) chance. Surely joining this swinging site is a massive betrayal and breach of your affair recovery.

I would seek a solicitor’s advice and go from there. Do you have a strong support system? I hope you receive good news, Milkshake.

@MilkshakeMonkey

Ok, shouldn’t have looked, but I did - so shoot me if you wish!

Message started with him messaging swing to a 70 number. It then replied saying he was charged £5 for the text, gave him a pin code to enter on fabswingers.com (I’m guessing this isn’t a childrens playground site!) to complete the upgrade.
All done while I was at work.

I am naive and stupid-is this a hook up site or porn? And before you ask, yes he has done online flirting before (ages ago) and promised it would never happen again.

WTF now? Am waiting for some test results which could be life changing. Also we have children.

Hello OP

I've sent you a PM.

@Greeneyes78

if they pay they can watch live sex i think. you should pay the fee, it will tell you how it will appear on your bank statement then you could look for that.

If he's signed up with a £5 charge on his phone, there wont be a bank record.

But, agree, sign up, use a different postcode and age for your profile (paying members can see who has viewed their profile) and then search to see if you can find him.

@MilkshakeMonkey

Woken up full of confusion. Is it ok if he has just looked but not touched? Or spoken to anyone? Do I face this now or wait until after my test results? If they come back bad (which would mean surrendering my driving licence and probably loosing my job), do I want to be reliant on a cheating scumbag? Or do I be reliant on said scum bag because of the children?

Even if he had "just looked" and not hooked up with someone you will have no way of knowing for certain if thats only because he had no opportunity to do more. I dont know much about that scene but I would strongly imagine that single men looking for hookups are oversubscribed compared to say, single women, or couples looking for MFM threesomes.

Caught an ex on fabgays and fabswingers...said the same shit- just curious, just for a wank, etc. I was always pretending to be a gay man to try and snare him on that site. It just isn't worth the hassle. I feel for you op, I can't believe he's doing this to you when you have something huge looming over you too. Hope everything goes well.

In my knowledge n understanding, it’s quite often used by couples, people in open relationships or polyamorous and single people that don’t mind being part of others. Often people a little more out there. But also some desperate folk. Some people take years to act on it or find the right person/people. Some are dodge but same on all ‘social’ Media. This requires a big heart to heart conversation . What is he looking for? Is it something u can be on board with. If he’s just being a coward n not talking to u bout it; scared of breaking it off with u or if he’s thoughts n desires aren’t matching yours then u might need to call it. There’s relationship therapies too. This issue is y he’s not talking to u bout it and being sly. Wish u all the best xx

Oops I missed a bit. Sounds like u need someone to just be there for just u right now ! If it’s just porn he’s using it for then I guess it might b his stress release, but he should have been upfront with u. If it’s a text from someone n he paid to read i dont get that. I’ll ask my friend who is in the site tomorrow. Hope ur doin ok xx

Have you ever discussed swinging clubs with him? He may be just curious and having a look, possibly before trying to get you to join him.

If it’s a genuine swinging site (which I suspect it is), without a prostitution element, it’s no place for single men, apart from fantasists. The chance of a single man getting anywhere is close to zero.

Single women on the other hand … they are not a called ‘unicorns’ for nothing. 😀

Oops! Just seen you’ve, probably accidentally,
resurrected a zombie thread from 2021!

Shame, because it’s interesting, and was never concluded.