My husband said I'm shit stirring and have problems in my head for protecting our land

[Cyanjade1]

Hi, I posted in legal a short time ago. Basically a person had approached us saying they'll be driving over our land claiming to have a access route through our wall and over our land and that they were buying land next door..

Despite me telling him that he did not have any access over our land, He has been accessing through gates, driving diggers, dumpers over our land. Our solicitor confirmed he doesnt have any access over our land. We pegged our land (reluctantly my husband helped me) out but this man has just been breaking the fence posts and throwing them into the bushes. Threatening to smash our wall down and stop us maintaining our property if we stop him driving over our land. My husband was there at the time the man made these threats, but he turned around to the man saying well you're not asking for alot are you.

This is the part thats gets to me this most. My husband shouts at me telling me I've got problems in my head and I'm shit stirring by stopping him going over our land. Despite our solicitor telling us both that this man has no access rights. My husband will not help me put our fence posts back up and says he won't be helping with any costs to do so. He's also told this man, he's not got a problem with what he's doing, its my wife who's got a problem with it and that he is staying out of it.

I now feel like both my husband and this man are ganged up against me, for simply protecting whats on the title deeds. I pay at least 50% of mortgage and bills (sometimes 100%) but now don't have a say over the land/property I'm paying towards keeping.

Please tell me this isn't normal behaviour of my husband. I feel sick to my stomach, our child is hearing these arguments and I absolutely hate how it's upsetting her as well I've mentioned devorce to him, because he's making me out to be a monster for doing nothing wrong. He's quite happy to do so, but won't be paying anything for that either.

I have to get me and our child out of here don't I, surely this isn't normal is it. I feel so broken at this moment, struggling to understand my husband. Not sure who he is anymore.

I don't necessarily think your DH is scared. His behaviour is disgraceful.
You have received legal advice that your neighbour had no right to do this.
I think you need to bypass your DH and take out an injunction against your neighbour or initially send a Solicitor's letter. The cost will be worth it. If he continues to Access your land it could impact the value of your property
I hate bullies with a passion.
At the very least put your fence back up and call the Police when he takes it down as this is criminal damage.
Your DH and his lack of support is a whole new thread. I would be really upset too

I feel for you OP.

Your neighbour is a bully, but your husband trowing you under the bus feels like the real problem. you must feel so betrayed by you H.

its worse to be treated awfully by someone meant to be on your side than when a stranger/neighbour behaves despicable.

For me your DH behaviour would be a real problem and i'd re-evaluate this relationship.

Are you okay @Cyanjade1?

Call the police! He's not a nice neighbour trying to be considerate, he's a violent, selfish bully. He's clearly bat shit and entitled.

The police will be able to advise.

And your DH - well. I'd have lost all respect for him.

Oh op, I've only just seen your last post. God. I have no idea what's wrong with your DH, but there is NO point being married to someone who doesn't have your back and who will support you.

He's siding with a violent bully over you? And he doesn't care about his land? He's a fool.