Pushy new partner

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So met someone on OLD.

Coffee last Monday went well. He was really keen to meet Tuesday. I said yes then panicked and cancelled.

Been working nights since then. Meant to be meeting tomorrow he wants to come to my house. I feel uneasy

Help

Tell him you don’t feel comfortable with him coming to your house the second time you meet him. If he doesn’t understand why then run a mile.

I've said can we meet in a pub. He said yes then back to yours

He's telling not asking you and he's disregarding your boundaries. Why on earth would you see him again at all?!

Haha nope.

Next!

Goodness no, I wouldn't be seeing him at all!

I've just tried explaining I want to take it slow

Sounds like he's just after one thing. I'd be very wary

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Don't meet him again. Red flag alert!

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RUN

he just wants sex. Nothing more.

He couldn't be clearer.

He claims just wants a cuddle

Cancel, just cancel, for goodness sake please, just cancel and block him on everything! Does he know your address?

This would honestly put me off. It's too soon for that and surely him coming back to yours should be your decision. I wouldn't dream of saying that to someone I barely knew. His over familiarity and pushiness is a huge red flag.

Didn't touch me when we had coffee

Way too pushy then. I would say something like ‘sorry but if you think inviting yourself to my house on a second date is appropriate then we are on completely different wavelengths. It was nice to meet you.’

No he doesn't know my address

Gross - no way. He can’t insist on that and don’t let him cajole you into it “oh just a cuddle honestly!”

Thank you lockdowners

I wouldn't even be meeting him if after the first time you've said no, he's already pushed back.

Fuck him off.

Ok going to cancel

He's not your 'new partner', either - you've had a coffee with him that's all. Just a chancer looking for an easy shag.

No he doesn't know my address

Problem solved.

I'd make an excuse to cancel. That's very pushy for a second date. No way I'd meet him let alone bring him to my house

Him saying he just wants a cuddle when he's seen you once is very creepy.