Pushy new partner

[Sosounhappy]

So met someone on OLD.

Coffee last Monday went well. He was really keen to meet Tuesday. I said yes then panicked and cancelled.

Been working nights since then. Meant to be meeting tomorrow he wants to come to my house. I feel uneasy

Help

Now block him.

yes, block.

He has nothing to say that you need to hear.

He is a creep. You are vulnerable and he sees it.

This type of man is usually one of these;

Plain rapey.

Married/partnered so has to get a shag in quickly when opportunity strikes.

Cocklodger.

Not sure that I can agree that he sounds 'deranged' - predatory and adept at finding the potentially vulnerable more like!

He sounds very dangerous. No one decent would invite themselves over on the second date and not to just cuddle :S

He is pushing for sex and not even being honest about it and not taking the hint that no sex is wanted.

Fuck. That.

Block, block, block.

@TokenGinger

I wouldn't even be meeting him if after the first time you've said no, he's already pushed back.

Fuck him off.

This!

@Sosounhappy

I know I do. Just been lonely for so long

Get into therapy or see what you can read or do online to build self esteem and boundaries.

Loneliness can make us vulnerable but loneliness can drive us to consider awful people as potential partners.

So glad you've cancelled. This man could become dangerous once he's got you behind closed doors.

So so so glad you have cancelled.

From what you have written it really seemed like he was asking to go back to yours to push his luck for sex, and your instincts were warning you something wasn’t right. They always ‘just’ want a ‘cuddle’ don’t they?

Always go with your instincts!

It’s difficult being lonely, but it sounds like maybe you need to work on your boundaries first and get a bit more self confidence back from your past before you try dating again? if you wouldn’t have posted on here or confided that you felt pushed or off, you might have gone through with it

I had an experience that began similarly to yours. Coffee with a 'nice enough' man, although was very pushy with me. Went on a nature walk on our second date and he wouldn't stop talking about wanting to be a dad. He swung by his place to get a jacket, asked me to stand in the close out of the rain while he went up to get the jacket. He dragged me into his flat and assaulted me, ended up pregnant and around a month later he was announcing he was going to be a dad, cant imagine that he was amazing to the now mother of his child after what he did to me. Id be very weary of men like this, as he seemed 'ok' to my young vulnerable brain.

Not sure that I can agree that he sounds 'deranged' - predatory and adept at finding the potentially vulnerable more like!

^This.
You fid the right thing by not responding. Now block him.

I don't mean this in a glib way but take up some serious exercise - yoga, swimming, walking, whatever. Physical exercise will make you feel better in yourself.

Hopelesslydevoted0 That’s horrific what happened to you . I’m so sorry

Just say no!!!!

Op the fact you had to ask on here shows you need to take some time to work on your boundaries. Everyone else could see from a mile off this guy is a chancing prick.