Pushy new partner

[Sosounhappy]

So met someone on OLD.

Coffee last Monday went well. He was really keen to meet Tuesday. I said yes then panicked and cancelled.

Been working nights since then. Meant to be meeting tomorrow he wants to come to my house. I feel uneasy

Help

What do you mean partner?? He's a bloke you've had a couple of dates with! What on Earth are you thinking? You don't want to meet him - then don't!! Partner indeed. FGS

Just WhatsApped him

You're calling him a partner and allowing him to dictate the terms of your interactions. After one coffee?!

You're not going to see him again are you? You know what I would call a man who doesn't listen to 'no' and wants to come to your home after meeting once? Dangerous.

Don't be so silly, lie and say you're not in the headspace for a relationship, block and delete. No discussion, period.

He'll be onto coffee and cuddles with someone else the next day and you can have the pleasure of not dealing with him any more.

You need to strengthen your boundaries before dating anyone else.

I know not a partner but that is what he is calling himself. My new partner

I wouldn't make an excuse - I'd give it him straight, then block.

I bet he'll hurl some abuse at you now. Do not engage if he does!

He has just messaged he is sad!!

What a cheeky bastard. How dare he make assumptions like that. I think you'd have had a serious problem if he did go back to your house, tbh.

If he's calling you that now, then I wouldn't just call it off, I'd blockety block

@Sosounhappy

I know not a partner but that is what he is calling himself. My new partner

Christ!

Block block block!

I wouldn't make an excuse either. Tell him the truth!

What @Lockdowners said.

Just text or email him so you don't even have to speak to him, cancel, no need to even give a reason and then block and move on.

@CodenameVillanelle

What do you mean partner?? He's a bloke you've had a couple of dates with! What on Earth are you thinking? You don't want to meet him - then don't!! Partner indeed. FGS

One date! A cup of coffee!

Don't be so silly, lie and say you're not in the headspace for a relationship, block and delete. No discussion, period

Sorry to quote myself but this wouldn't be a lie thinking about it. You're not ready to date if this is how skewed your boundaries are. To the point you'll put yourself in dangerous situations in order not to be firm or say no. It's ok to say no. It's healthy. It keeps you safe.

He called himself your partner after ONE DATE? He is a nutter, my dear, just block him and move onto the next one.

Block him

@Sosounhappy

He has just messaged he is sad!!

Block. Him. Job done.

He has just messaged he is sad!

🙄

I've messaged and cancelled....thank you

Sad will turn into abuse when you won't change your mind or don't respond. I'd bet my left sock on it!

He's sad after one date? Holy shit! I feel something is a miss.....

Have you blocked him?

My boundaries are skewed after an abusive marriage where saying no was difficult

Just ignoring him

You need to block him.... or the abuse will start very soon.