I have a much lower sex drive than DH and his is very high. I might like it once or twice a week (possibly 3 times some weeks) whereas he would like it daily and preferably multiple times within that 24 hour window.
We have toddlers so that isn't possible (or wanted by me)
I've not been in 'the' mood for the past five or so days as I have felt stressed with other pressing matters. I said to him that we could have sex today if I don't start my period (it's always between 21st and 24th every month)
When he left for work last night he text me saying "you've shown no interest all week now when you do you're going to come on lol"
He has also made comments about how he's disappointed I don't give him oral sex anymore despite knowing full well why I can't. I have acute TMD requiring an operation and I'm on strong medication daily to control the pain. I just can't use my mouth in that way now.
He came home from work this morning, showered and put on his 'sexy' underwear for bed which he does when he wants sex. He likes me to wake him up by joining him in bed iykwim. God knows how he thinks that's feasible with children awake in the afternoon but there we are.
As the day has gone on I'm getting the pre menstrual cramps, anxiety and feeling generally unwell as I always do before it starts so it looks like sex is now off the menu unless I have sex I don't want (which I won't be doing)
He's going to be disappointed and sexually frustrated which will then bug me as I don't understand why he can't just masturbate instead. He treats sex as though it's like oxygen, he needs it day in bloody day out.
As you can probably tell I'm just fed up of the sex expectations and mismatched drives and I don't like how it makes me feel inadequate when I have a perfectly normal sex drive (to most people)
It has become a chore and so repetitive that I no longer look forward to it.
Are we doomed?