Friend joked about how many people I had slept with?

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I’ve slept with 7 people and I’m 30.

My friend made a joke today that I had been around the block. I feel horrible about it and while three of these were non starter relationships and people I saw maybe 3 months ish, the other four were significant relationships to me that lasted a few years each.

Am I being sensitive here?

I thought she was going to tease you for settling down early as seven is hardly any!

That’s not round the block at all!!! Nobody should be judged for how many people they have slept with, plus it’s nobody’s business. Whether it’s 0 or 1000, male, female, straight, gay or bi. The only time it’s wrong is if coercion is involved, or not being irresponsible or if women think it’s what they’ve got to do to get into a relationship etc or out of low self esteem. As long as it’s what the person wants and they are enjoying it and having fun, whether in love or just fun it’s nobody’s business. It’s how you treat people that’s important!

I’ve slept with 1 but many of my friends at university were in the 50s so it’s fine!

@Userwtdb

Ok feeling better now!!

To be honest I wish I hadn’t slept with a few of them!! Haha

Oh mate, we've all been there! At 30 I was well into double figures! Nobody's business but yours.

7? Crikey. There’s a recent thread on AIBU asking number of sexual partners and there aren’t many with as few as 7 at all. That would definitely be an eye opener for your friend!

Ignore her, if she mentions it again tell her variety is the spice of life and at least when you do settle down you won't be wondering what sex with someone else might be like. 7 is a low number by the way. I'm almost 50, met my husband at 30 and I'm glad I had a variety beforehand. Weirdly my two best friends since childhood are both married to the only man they've ever had sex with (both lovely men) and I kinda feel sorry for them, how do they know if sex could be earth movingly better with someone else? I know I'd be so curious if I was in their position, no pun intended.....

7 is so few! Don’t worry about it or give it any more thought. It doesn’t matter if your number is 0 or 100+ - everyone has the experiences that are right for them. I think I read somewhere that 7 is the average number of sexual partners someone has over a lifetime but my number is far far higher!

Well I've slept with well over 100 people and I'm 28

7 is hardly putting it about. No way am I revealing my number, but suffice to say at 30 mine was much higher

It was an unnecessary judgement for your friend to make. Quite cruel actually as it is a comment that clearly hurt you.

What's her story, out of curiosity? Married, single?

Round the block? Wish I had only slept with 7 🤣

That's a very small block. Merely a handful of semidetached houses.
Tell her she got her numbers wrong and missed off a zero. Let her out-rage her outrage then laugh at her.

Well I'd slept with 22 people by the time I was 27! 😂😬
Seriously OP, you have nothing to worry about. It is not a high number at all. Life is for living and enjoying. Maybe have a word with her about it. If she takes offence or is nasty I'd say she is not a true friend.

7 definitely is not around the block, I don't think she's lived much.
I was having a discussion with some work colleagues and this subject came up, I told them the truth my number was 25 and most before the age of 21, they were really shocked by this like it was too much, maybe people expect women to be more 'respectable'

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But only at the beginning...there are pages of no response after that and people have asked questions directly to the OP, nine of which were answered....Just seems odd to me