Friend joked about how many people I had slept with?

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I’ve slept with 7 people and I’m 30.

My friend made a joke today that I had been around the block. I feel horrible about it and while three of these were non starter relationships and people I saw maybe 3 months ish, the other four were significant relationships to me that lasted a few years each.

Am I being sensitive here?

Is your friend a nun? Seriously 7 people...lol!
Tell her to go back to the 1950’s!

My tally of 2 seems woeful here.
I met DH at 19.

I kind of regretted not sowing any wild oats, but never enough to chuck away my relationship.

“Round the block??? That's hardly past the doorstep!”

This.

7 at the age of 30 is a pretty low number.

I don’t like the sound of your friend much. Does she often make uncalled-for snide remarks?

Was she being ironic/sarcastic, meaning the opposite , do you think ?

It’s sad that your first thought was to worry about whether you had done something wrong rather than to be aghast that’s such a close friend could attempt to insult you.

In all honesty I thought people didn’t even use expressions like ‘been around the block’ anymore, it’s pretty old-fashioned to say and think like that.
That someone who is meant to be your friend tried to use it to put you down is really nasty - does she out you down in other ways too or is it just sexual partners she likes to shame people over?

Who are these people? What does she think
Is an acceptable number then? I think that judgement by women on these matters are worse than by men quite frankly...she doesn’t sound like the sort of person I would want to be friends with.

7 is barely anything, what is she on about? Most close friends had reached 7 by 21/22!

I guess it all depends on the context and what kinds of jokes you usually make around each other - was it said in a way to make a dig at you or more of a lighthearted way? For example, sometimes my friend will make jokes about my “wild” past - the joke actually being that I’ve slept with 2 people total

I honestly couldn’t imagine caring how many men my friends have slept with - as long as it’s safe, consensual, and not with my DP!!!

Its all relative really. My number is similar to yours, and im the same age. Dont think its high at all. Ive had a few relationships of 2+ years, and a couple of flings.

But my number is by far the highest of my friendship group. Not that thats a positive or negative thing, and they dont make fun of me for it, but conpared to them, im the promiscuous one.

Tell them you'd like to discuss equality in the 21st century and how men and women are treated differently when it comes to sexual partners.

@HPFA

According to one survey the average no of partners is 7.2 so if you sleep with 0.2 of a man you'll be totally average!!

Everyone has their own sensitivities about this. I'm still with the first man I slept with (I'm 53) and probably wouldn't tell people IRL as they't think it was weird and boring!!

I've slept with that 0.2 of a man - it was rubbish!

Whether it's 7 or 70, it's not her business to comment.

Your friend sounds like a bitch OP! A) what the merry fuck has it got to do with her? B) Who is she to judge ANY other Woman's sex life? and C) 7 at 30 is fuck all.

I'm 36 and have slept with somewhere between 20 & 30 but I'd have to sit down and really think about it tell you exactly.

Some of them have been regrettable drunken decisions in my youth, others have been relationships, and others one-night stands I've gone into with my eyes open. All the best ones have been in my 30s so depending on your relationship status OP you could have more fun to come (just don't tell your 'friend').

Wow your ‘friend’ doesn’t sound like a complete twat at all

Seriously, only 7?? That is not enough! Get out there and enjoy yourself

Your "friend" has found the chink in your armour, haven't they.

I am with @MysteriesOfTheOrganism, frankly it is not a lot.

And even if. So what?

She's not a friend. End of story.

I dunno if your friend is a knob, I'd feel edgy and cool if someone described me as having 'been round the block'.

I haven't though. And I've slept with more people than you have

I had slept with about 10 by the time I was 17. I wouldn't call 7 at 30 a lot at all!

That's not a remotely high number for 30.

Your friend's perception of a high number is strange .. is she from a very conservative/traditional/religious background or something?

In any case saying that to someone is nasty, derogatory ... She's no true friend.

Totally depends on the friendship. If it's your close friend and you have a two way banter/piss take relationship, then I wouldn't be at all bothered. Heard and given out much worse myself.

If you don't know each other that well and you wouldn't dream of discussing her sex life, then it sounds like she's overstepped the mark.

7 is nothing! A good friend in her 40s of mine is fast approaching her century and honestly it would never occur to me to slut-shame her. Your 'friend' behaved in a deeply uncool manner to do that to you.

Cripes, I wish we could edit comments. Or maybe I should proof before I post!

Round the block??? That's hardly past the doorstep!

Op what counts is. Dis you do so safely and willingly. If the answers to that is yes then the number doesn't matter. I've been in a monogamous relationship for 27 years and mycount is higher than that. I had fun and I only regret one (due to gim turning a bit crazy on me after)

Perhaps it's a good idea to tell your friend that you found her comment upsetting and made you feel like she's judging you.