So 3 weeks ago I met a guy OLD (not tinder). We hit it off straight away although I wasn’t too keen at first for various reasons... namely an injury meaning I couldn’t really walk! So we messaged for a couple of weeks. Everyday, some days me messaging first and other days him. All times of the day. We are both young (me in my 20’s and him in his 30’s), I asked him what he was looking for and he said ‘to get married ASAP of course’ no idea if he was joking or not, but we disgusted ghosting and I said how I find it unkind etc. Got on like a house on fire via message for weeks, he said he hadn’t spoken to a woman in this way since he was 20. We spoke about anything and everything- deep things including religion including light sexting. He told me he hasn’t dated many different girls in the past.
On Friday we had our first date- lovely casual date in a park with wine followed by dinner. It went well, he even said ‘Listening to you speak is like listening to myself’ and at the end of the date he asked when he could see me again. I said I was free on the Sunday. So on the way home he didn’t kiss me- I was slightly surprised as I’ve nearly always ended a date with a kiss. He messages saying he didn’t want to see creepy etc so had been reserved but said you are absolutely gorgeous. On Saturday I then messaged first, and we agreed on a time for Sunday. On Sunday morning he messaged first, and asked if we could meet earlier as he had a thing with friends planned for the evening and he wanted to enjoy his time with me.
Sunday date was perfect- another park meeting but we kissed for hours, talked in detail got on great. He casually asked if I had been to a certain part of London and said we should go there next time, I casually said ‘yeah....’ then continued the conversation. So maybe he think I wasn’t keen! At the end of the date he told me he was viewing houses this week to purchase and said ‘I’ll send you any i like’ then told me to message him how an issue at work goes. So I messaged on Sunday night, he said it was a great afternoon and I have gorgeous lips etc. Then sexted in quite some detail. On Monday I waited for him to message first- finally he did at 10pm!! Chat was normal and great. Then yesterday I messaged first, we chatted in the day time (he has an incredibly intense high flying job in banking where it can change in an instant!) and I told him to message me how a health appointment had gone... 8pm came and he hadn’t so I messaged first and asked him how it was, conversation was fine albeit he didn’t ask me any questions. Just lots of detail about him, we discussed what happened in Beirut etc. Then he left my last message (just a reply saying ‘yes it will be interesting’) on read. No goodnight message like he has done nightly for weeks. Now he hadn’t messaged at all today! Should I message?
I’ve always believed if a man likes you then they will message first/be arranging the next date but I’m not so sure! He is genuinely kind it seems and I’m worried he has the wrong idea about me or maybe he has just gone off me?