Things you enjoy being single

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I’m struggling at the moment with feeling like I’m really missing out on a relationship, so I thought I would be nice/helpful if people can share what things they enjoy because of/in spite of being single.

Mine are:
Watching a good tv series with a glass of wine
Eating a whole box of chocolates without having to share
Farting as much/as loudly as I want in my own home
Not having to clear up someone’s stuff
Things being where I left them

Not feeling guilty for anything (things that I shouldn't feel guilty about anyway, he was just manipulative)
Not having to do his smelly washing
Not cleaning up after him
Not having to answer or explain myself to him
Not dealing with his sulkiness and moodswings.
There's lots to love about being single

When my.ex h left I was so sad. I tried to find good things. The best I found was having all of the drawers to my self in bedroom and not having to share, no one ate the last lolly from the freezer I got it every time, I got control of the remote, I ate what time I felt like, no more going in shower second, no more having to wash and iron his clothes, I can spend as long as I like on phone to my sister with no sarcastic comments.

I certainly don't miss hearing " I've washed my cock love are you up for a shag ? "

Washed cock - meant he'd usually used one of my face flannels , barely tepid water , and no soap ( it was too drying apparently )

I certainly don't miss his smell either ! Dirty stinking arse waft while watching telly , just gross! Sausage smelling armpits too!

Single and celibate for 20 years now , I love it .. I think he put me off for life !

Some men are so skanky and have the cheek to think they are the prize.... because they have a cock.....

I briefly wondered about dating again, but then the thought of all the faff of getting dressed up and going out dating felt that the thing I'd like to do least in the world.

As a few pp have mentioned, I'd never live with anyone, or get married again.

Being single has made me realise how much I value my own time, money and space. Even if Mr Right is out there, I cba looking for him these days.

The bathroom is always available
No one worrying if you are later home than intended
No crap tv, its your choice.

I know a guy who split up with his ex around the same time I split with mine
It
Made
Me giggle and learnt today he is dating again

I , am so NOT

And on sweltering hot nights like this, I can lie naked on top of the sheet, without him thinking it’s an invitation.

I used to be judged for never wanting a relationship and was made to feel like something was wrong with me. I can take or leave sex, it's never been great for me. I'm not asexual or weird, I've just never really wanted to be part of a couple. I love my own space and freedom, it's wonderful! I've finally made peace with the fact that I'm a happy singleton!

When I was first single again I mostly enjoyed not being lied to and cheated on but as time goes by I love being in charge in my house, no-one else here to be bossy and emotionally stunted. I can do whatever I like and not have to justify myself.

Oh yeah and being able to watch mindless TV without sarcastic comments is bliss 👌

I live (on the whole) happily with DP but I did live by myself for many years. However, when I was single these are the things I loved but maybe didn’t Appreciate enough at the time:-
Eating what I want when I want. If I want cereal for tea three nights on the bounce I can have it.
Sharing my bed with my ddogs.
Not having to be considerate and think if what I am doing is unreasonable or unfair on the other person.
Going to bed when I want and likewise getting up when it suits me.
Obviously watching what I want on TV.
Not having to listen to boring conversations, moaning or whatever.

In a nutshell living alone is brilliant and gives you so much freedom. It should not be seen as inferior to living with a partner. Being single gives a person time to be themselves and (re)discover who they are.

I like being able to do what I like when I like. I can go to concerts, go on holiday, go to the cinema, go for meals, meet friends - anything really. I can hang around with people I meet at any of those places and chat to them without feeling I have to be home or without feeling I am doing something wrong.
I know some people on this thread said that it's single people saying why they like not having their ex around rather than what they like about being single but I think it's all bound up together. If you've had relationships you can't really talk about being single without comparing.
In my last relationship I really wasn't able to talk to other men without my ex getting in a huff about it and he didn't really like me talking to women either. He also managed to gate-crash all but one of the hobby groups I was in and he'd criticize how I talked to other people. I became very withdrawn and unable to talk to others.
So that's a major reason why I am loving being single - I find it wonderful when I can chat to others and feel normal and it's taken a long time for me to be able to do this. I'd lost conversational skills and everything just felt off.

Also things like being able to go to bed and not be disturbed by a drunk coming in shouting and being able to get up at the right time for me.

My flat is my own little place and it is an oasis of calm. I gain strength here and I can do what I like - start up whatever hobbies I like etc.

Also someone mentioned upthread that they have been living with someone since lockdown and said her chores had doubled since the bloked moved in and how does that happen when there are two people there? My chores have more than halved since ex went - I also don't know why this happens. But I'm loving being single because the chores just get done so easily and everything stays clean and tidy unless I make a mess. There's no picking up after someone else and no stink from the toilet (ex's urine absolutely stank - never got to the bottom of this, possibly dribbling piss on the tiles around the toilet when drunk ... yuk).

Everything's better. I sometimes think I would like another relationship but I can't really be bothered at the moment. I have some very mild flirtations going on and that's about it. I don't think I would ever live with anyone ever again and I'm not sure I would want a relationship - certainly not at the moment. There is just that occasional "It might be nice thought".... but then it probably wouldn't be as my two long-term relationships have definitely not been nice!

I think looking at the relationship pages and remembering how bent out of shape I get over any man whether it be dating (should I text him?? Why don't I fancy him?? What is he thinking??) or co-habiting (why is he so fucking selfish and controlling) never fails to make me glad to be single and on an even keel emotionally, financially and practically. I have such a tendency to lose myself and even the simplest decision about whether to buy certain clothes was fraught with difficulty over whether HE would like them. I am going to continue working on my self but am so happy on my own. At the moment and in today I'd need someone to really add to my life for them to be allowed into it. I also don't like the patronising "why are you single" questions as if it's not acceptable or even a valid choice . Thank you for this thread. Lots of posts I really identify with. Like the farting stuff sounds so frivolous but I used to make myself ill as my abusive ex would monitor my trips to the toilet. Not having constant stomach pain is so good.

My flat is my own little place and it is an oasis of calm.

This. I miss having my own space so much, my house was beautiful and tidy and now it's not 😞

Is it bad that I'm thinking being single sounds like heaven?

It does sound lovely. I am holding on to this thought.
Personally I like not having to cook dinner for a man when I get in from work.
I also appreciate not being made to feel constantly guilty and apologetic. And not having to listen to the boring minutiae of someone else’s work day.

@tinkywinkyshandbag nope, it's bliss!

Always having a clean house
Having the bed to myself
Not having to listen to someone snoring
Eating what I want when I want
Not having to listen to the same old boring stories that I have already heard before many times.
Having the freedom to do as I please and not have to worry about pleasing anyone else.

I will never live with another man again. A FWB might be nice though.

Freedom to manage my own life and time. A king size bed to myself.