Things you enjoy being single

[BooFuckingHoo2]

I’m struggling at the moment with feeling like I’m really missing out on a relationship, so I thought I would be nice/helpful if people can share what things they enjoy because of/in spite of being single.

Mine are:
Watching a good tv series with a glass of wine
Eating a whole box of chocolates without having to share
Farting as much/as loudly as I want in my own home
Not having to clear up someone’s stuff
Things being where I left them

I'm currently sitting in bed, at 8.30 eating cookies shoe shopping online with a cuppa after a long day working. Bliss.
No one to moan about crumbs in the bed, they'll get brushed to the empty side until I hoover tomorrow morning. No one moaning for my energy when I dont have the energy to give. No one moaning that I'm spending too much of MY money on shoes. No one moaning that I'm going out Saturday evening when I'm looking fabulous in aforementioned new shoes.
I bought meatballs for dinner tomorrow, because I fancied them. I'll eat my meatballs whilst watching Sex and the City, because there will be no one to moan 'not this shit again' and I'll have a glass of red without having to share the rest of the bottle, then I'll soak in a long bath with some very posh bubbles (that dont get used as shower gel because he forgot to buy any).
I'll be honest, the only thing I miss having someone to put the rubbish out 🤣🤣🤣.

@MizMoonshine

Not having to worry that you're getting cheated on.

This

Isn’t it interesting that a lot of these replies are just that you’re happier that there isn’t some else there to annoy you lol

All of the above.

Don't have to endure mansplaining.

But the best is that I can sleep all night without being woken up by a snoring fidget arse

No ignorant partner saying he should be present when a repair man visits..

No ignorant man stating whatever he says is right..

No sulking man when you don't want sex every night.

No man child constantly saying two is better than one regarding relationships... maybe for you fucker but not for me!

I'd be happy with a great lover visiting every 2 weeks so I can enjoy my freedom and no man child!

Unless it's a great relationship....I can't be asked!

More confident and happier then when in a shitty relationship.

Make the most of it ladies....fart, star fish in bed, drink all that wine and more

Not having to worry about paying the rent because of someone else's financial incompetence

To be able to take pride in myself without them thinking I'm trying to impress colleagues

To be able to eat what I want or better still not have to cook for anyone else (other than dc)

To not constantly walk on edge shells

To not play the who has it harder game

Fresh out of a 12 year marriage and doing great

I waa with my ex for 15 years, we've been split 2 years now and I haven't been in a date or spoke to anyone, because I can't be bothered. I live having my own space, being able to do what I want without someone moaning. Apart from the DC food I don't have to make 2 adult meals, just mine.

I'm in uni, so I'm focusing on that, but i feel like I'd be quite happy being single forever 😂

Everything that’s been said.
No worrying about everything I do and say and still having to appease a man’s ego.
I don’t want to share my home but won’t lie I would like a relationship. However I would not give up what I have gained for anything other than for a man who suited me perfectly. Not many would be willing to live in separate spaces so I am very happy to not have a relationship if I can’t find the right person.
Years of enduring a drunk drug taking cheating financially reckless selfish man baby mean PEACE is very precious to me. My children and I are very content.
I love sex and had great lovers. Being single has been a blessing. Not everyone in a relationship or married is happy so I know the grass is certainly not always green.

If I ever have another relationship, he will live in his house and me in mine. We may get together from time to time.

@mosquitofeast 100% agree! For some reason I can't quote on desktop though... but yes, I wouldn't swap my freedom, peace and happiness for millions, even on the scary months moneywise.

Lovely to see so many other happy singles. I remember realising that I'm always happier out of a relationship than in one, and being a bit puzzled... but it's definitely my natural happy state, and 6.5 years later, no sign of it changing.

OP you made me laugh with the farting!

Quite a lot if things at the moment, but most of all having the time to invest in other friendships especially friendships with other single women. Having a friend to stay for a good few weeks, going away for a weekend with a friend. If I had a partner now I think I’d want it to be on a very very part time basis.

And also just feeling relaxed, at peace and content - within myself and within my life. Having the space, emotional and mental, to work on projects that are important to me.

I kind of wished this lockdown happened 5 years ago when I was single and had no toddler to take care of. Life would have been much more easier for me back but then.

Being able to decorate exactly as I like, without having to consult someone else anytime I want to move the position of the couch or bed, etc.

Knowing my flat will be exactly as I left it & no unexpected messes

Sleeping in till whatever hour I want without it inviting comment from someone else

Easy meal planning & leftovers to eat, plus food budgeting is much simpler (+ cheaper!)

Basically doing whatever you like, whenever you like with nobody to give their unwanted opinions

2 hour marathon bath sessions

Also letting your dogs sleep on the bed & nobody to stop this, or whingeing about wanting the dogs to sleep outside / away from the pack !

I’ll add a few

• not being expected to cook great chunks of dead animal with every meal. Sometimes a cheese sandwich and a glass of wine is enough.
• finding my bathroom as I left it
• not being nagged to update my car, which is perfectly reliable
• saving money, not spending every last £
• cycling without needing to break a record, just amiable cycling for the pleasure of fresh air & sunshine
• Never having to watch American Pickers again (who on earth finds rooting around in rubbish entertaining )
• lying still in bed and letting all my muscles relax.
• helping my ds with his homework without being criticised.
• lying quietly in bed and listening to the owls hooting in the garden.
• no twitching

I’d like a relationship, I honestly would, but I’d like to meet a quiet man who doesn’t need to compete and is content in his own skin. I’m not sure they exist.

Yes to letting dogs sleep on the bed/bedroom, I’ve never been with someone who didn’t moan about that

• peace and tranquility
• no bad mood vibes when you aren't sure what you've managed to do wrong
• silence if you want, or music/tv whenever you want
• no skid marks on bedsheets or in the loo
• chocolate in the fridge is still there when you come back later

Not having to feel guilty if I haven’t tidied up. Cooking what I want to eat not the limited boring list that was all he would eat. Lying in bed watching back episodes of an old series I love. Total no stress about holidays. In fact not stressing about anything much (me ex-H had anxiety so everything was a stress). Not having to remember all the in-laws birthdays and sort their presents. The blessed silence. Having on whatever music I like.

Oh boy, so many great things about being single. I probably have a list a mile long!!! Here goes:
-it’s peaceful! After living with an alcoholic/drug addict, it is pure bliss not to have all the worry and aggro that comes with that.
-my children are more relaxed, I’m more relaxed.
-we can make noise (normal
Levels) and do usual activities during day without worrying about pissing him off.
-I can go to bed without worrying that he might sneak off during night for a bender.
-I can plan to do things/meet friends (before covid!) and Plan activities for the kids without worrying whether he’d ruin the day or not be up to it.
-I can keep alcohol in the house and know it will be there when I fancy a little (I drink a v small amount - literally 1-2 units at a time - maybe 4-6 times a year). He used to neck the lot and I gave up having anything in once I realised he was an alcoholic.
-no more being scared or worrying about his moods.
-house is tidier, cleaner and smells nicer.
-meal planning is a cinch.
-I can leave the place clean and tidy on an evening and it will still be clean and today when I come downstairs in the morning.
-I’m not worried about him anymore. He can do what the hell he likes, as long as he stays the hell away from the kids/myself/my home when he drunk or high.*
-no drunken man trying it on for sex
-no verbal abuse, no being shoved about.
-I can sleep with the curtains open (my bedroom faces east, and I love being woken up by the sun - no one can see into my room as the house is placed higher up in a hill than opposite side).
-I can go to work, and not worry about what fuckwittery he will pull that day.
-I arrange all the childcare now so no worries about him screwing about with that and bailing the last second.
-the gas/electricity bills are way less than when he was living here.
-there aren’t a load of half finished fucking “projects” left lying about!
-the tv isn’t on 24/7, and me/the kids can choose what we like.
-I can think of millions of things!!!

*thats what he used to say he wanted: to be able to do what the hell HE liked, when he wanted to do it, and to hell with anyone else. Well, he got that wish and is now living the dream. Except he says he misses me, misses the home and family life. So what I think he actually wanted was to be able to just do what he wanted (drink and drugs) without so much as a “by your leave” (and without me saying a damned thing about it to him)...Whilst living with family, whilst I worked full time (I was the breadwinner) and whilst I sorted out the kids/running the house etc. Well he can FOTTOSOF....and he did!!!!

@tictac80. Yes, my electricity bill halved too. What did they do with it? I never quite worked it out

Being psychologically and physically FREE.

Not feeling anxious all the time, especially when dating - do they like me, will they text, etc.

I tend to feel so much stronger and in control when I'm single.

@TomHardysBitontheside Yes it's so freeing... sometimes it's like the Devil is trying to pull me back and I just can't face it.

@TicTac80 Sounds like you lived a nightmare....glad you escaped and are happy!

Glad we all escaped