Would you/ Do you/ Have you knowingly date a man with depression?

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Can you advise? Is it too hard? Thank you.

It does depend on a lot of factors, what you described I would not touch with a ten foot pole. A decent man who managed it well, maybe.

I have depression and I’m bloody lovely!!! I’m more passive than angry. But I’m not inconsiderate, or aggressive or angry.

On the right medication I’m delightful. Not every depressed person is an arsehole. Some of us are genuinely nice people who have to battle this hateful disease.

i have dated someone with depression and I would never knowingly date someone again with depression.

If i was with someone and it developed, it would depend if they took ownership of it and got help. If it was ignored then no, I would walk regardless.

Harsh but I have seen/dealt with and live through too much to go there

I’m a long term happily medicated depressive. I’m reliably told I’m a great partner, fun to be around, positive and energetic. That said I would not date a man who was an unmedicated or untreated depressive same as I wouldn’t date anyone else with a long term health problem who chose not to manage it according to medical advice. I see both sides. But if he’s on antidepressants and it’s well controlled and has been stable for a while and you like him then of course date him. Engage with his illness (because it IS an illness and is absolutely hideous and egregious and no one frankly chooses to be a lazy ass or any of the other nasty comments I’ve just read) and if he’s managing it with the same degree of care that a diabetic or asthmatic or similar does then he deserves a chance.

Ah I just read the additional context later in the OPs second post. Nope. I wouldn’t. But my point above still stands. Enjoying the wider discussion here too. It’s an important one. I cannot believe the depression bashing I see on mum’s net. Guys it’s an illness with a biochemical pathology neurotransmitters don’t function properly. Etc. would we be saying the same about a diabetic or someone with MS???? And frankly as a managed depressive I can testify I take care of my ‘health’ (because that’s what it is) daily, am the first to support anyone else with mental health issues and am never without my medication, and honestly all this stuff about us using the illness to excuse awful behavior? I never even mention my depression having told my partners. Why do I need to? It’s controlled and therefore not apparent. Gah mental ill health is still so damn stigmatized in the Uk from what I can see. Glad I live now in the USA where it’s an open discussion and deemed just an illness with chemical cause which gets treated.

Absolutely not. It's hard enough dealing with my mum and sister and I don't live with them.