Stop seeing him because he’s a bad kisser?

[Freshdaisy]

Went on 1 date with a guy before lockdown and went well. Stayed in contact over last 4 months and met for socially distant walks when allowed. Saw last night when the pubs opened and had first kiss.
Kiss was such a let down, appears he is a bad kisser that doesn’t know what to do.

Do I stop seeing him or is this too trivial? Will he be bad in bed too? Is it just lack of experience and I should talk to him about it?
We do get on well and stayed in contact Throughout lockdown so would be a shame to end it but sexual and physical contact is important to me. If it’s rubbish I can’t live with that

[Nevercastaclout]

I didn't enjoy the first kiss with my dh & it gave me the wobbles but we're still together 36 years later. I think I addressed it - or just showed him the way I liked it - and he was afterwards and is great now. 😘

[wishfuldreamer]

I dunno, I wouldn’t go off one kiss. When I kissed my partner in our first date, it was awful. We were both quite nervous and his mouth was closed and all stiff. If that had been it, I think I would have been disappointed. Fortunately, I was still pretty attracted to him and willing to see what might happen and the kiss in the lift up to my flat was much better. I’d say that we’ve both moved our styles to match each other a bit as we’ve been dating. I think that happens every time you kiss someone new...

[Livandme]

If you like him, try another kiss to see if it was nerves.
I kissed soneone for the first time I felt was a bit slobbery for me
It turns out he was nervous and hadn't kissed anyone for ages and loved my kissing. His kissing got better and better the more we did. Miss his kisses tbh

[Neepers]

Yeah, give him a couple of goes. I was once really disappointed with a first kiss, but he turned into the best kisser ever!

[MikeUniformMike]

It's your body telling you to reject him.

[Firenight]

I married a bad kisser. Miss it so much. Don't settle for less than perfect. Kissing is important.

[GilbertMarkham]

the sexual technique of a Neanderthal in a rush



Pretty much every man I've ever had sex with.

[percheron67]

Thank you to all posters. I have been feeling down today but reading your comments has cheered me right up! Mumsnet to the rescue again.

[Silentfrog]

I've never like snoggy kissing DH. He's a slobberer and we have incompatible lip sizes. But everything else about our relationship is lovely, and he's great in bed.

[Opentooffers]

Lol, mine's in his 50's , probably kissed hundreds - bit wild in his youth - and yet just odd at the beginning, however, have dated worse kissers, some have adapted to my style better than thlan others. I think this one has ability to adapt well, just forgets and reverts occasionally. Others have more been like multiple pecks, I like to linger.
Best ever oral in other ways though, so just goes to show that kissing technique is not a marker for how adept a person is at other stuff.

[SmileyClare]

I came to the conclusion that a bad kiss is a big sign you don't have sexual chemistry. Either that or one of you was too nervous or awkward.

I don't think I've ever fancied the pants off anyone, wanted to touch them and then been disappointed when I kissed them.

I'm not really into long snogging sessions though.

A good rule of thumb if you're wondering Are they good in bed? is to look at how they dance when you're out. Any bloke that's all jerky and awkward without much rhythm is usually like that in the sack.

[Wherearemymarbles]

Surely it comes down to compatibility? Why should someone change their style to suit you anymore than you should change yours to suit them? I dont like someones tongue in my mouth. If that makes me a crap kisser, so be it!

[Needhelp101]

Is it wrong that I'm crying laughing at this thread?
OP, I agree with previous posters that you should give him one more chance.

[IfIHadAHeart]

I’ve been seeing someone and the first time I kissed him it was crap. He’s much improved, although still not amazing, but the sex is absolutely mind-blowing and he gives great oral. So it doesn’t necessarily mean he will be crap in bed. Shit sex I absolutely will not tolerate though so he’d only get one chance on that front!!

[Cat112344]

I once dated someone who too was an awful kisser I mean I was traumatised for months 😂 he has his mouth open so god damn wide I thought he was gonna eat me 😂😂😂 safe to say I didn’t see him again...

[namechange12a]

I haven't mentioned my dislocated jaw. I once had a bf with a massive head and huge mouth. He used to clamp my mouth open, as wide as it would go and just poke his tongue in and out. My jaw eventually dislocated and I still suffer from TMJ. It's very painful and not recommended.

[Joy69]

namechange12a that's hilarious 🤣🤣
Seriously I would give him another couple of goes. My first kisses with my partner were aweful. It was me, not him because I was so nervous. I remember him saying it's ok don't be nervous 😆. All fine now, just needed some practice

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

First one he may have been nervous. Has he been in a long relationship? It might be that he’s so entrenched in his old kissing ways that he’s forgotten how to do it. That happened to me . First guy I kissed after I left my 12 year marriage felt really unnatural. I even said afterwards “OMg I’ve forgotten how to do it! You’ll have to remind me”.

With DP a few months later it was absolute fireworks from the first time we met to the point I accidentally blurted out that I loved him mid session after our first date. I was very drunk in my defence

He still makes me melt and I think that makes up for an awful lot of other things. I can be really pissed off about something but when he looks into my eyes and kisses me all of forgiven . It’s important, but I’d maybe give it another chance just in case.