About 6 months ago, DH, who has always done 'jokes' that only he thinks are funny, started to have a comical (in his opinion) obsession with my breasts.
Each time he walked up to me he'd keep grabbing my boobs, and it escalated to him grabbing them constantly and shouting 'boobies' in the way that the Cookie Monster says 'cookies'. I know this sounds ridiculous but it's the best way to describe it. He also does other stuff involving my breasts too, which I'm not going to describe as it's a total cliche thing that men do but he keeps doing it and I hate it.
If I wear anything that is remotely revealing he keeps saying 'boobies'. The other day I put on a bikini and sat in the garden and he came and sat in the garden too and kept saying 'boobies' and trying to grab them. In the end I went in and got changed as I just couldn't take it anymore.
It's starting to make me feel really dirty. I have in the past been sexually abused by a boyfriend in my early teens and it's making me feel so dirty because of that, I think. I've told DH time and time again that I hate it and not to do it but he says it's just a joke and that I've got no sense of humour.
I'm only a 32C BTW, not that it would make a difference to it being wrong if I had massive boobs but it's not like they're huge and in his fucking face all the time.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Sick of DH doing this
RedAndYellowTulips · 28/06/2020 17:21
This reply has been deleted
Message deleted by MNHQ as it contained a previously deleted post.
This is really fucking annoying. It's a turn off, and it's not a joke if it's not funny to you.
This is what men do he's your husband I don't see anything wrong with it just seems to me that you are being prudish
@Cp1618 I don't know what world you're living in, but this is not normal at all. Maybe a bloke might do something like this once as a joke when someone's lying in bed (though I haven't even experienced anything like that) but not all the time when someone's just trying to go about their everyday life. Being grabbed when you're just trying to do your own thing is fucking irritating.
who has always done 'jokes' that only he thinks are funny,
I've told DH time and time again that I hate it and not to do it but he says it's just a joke and that I've got no sense of humour.
Abusive men often claim unpleasant and hurtful things they do and say are 'just joking.' What other 'jokes' has he made over the years?
He sounds kind of abusive OP. 
He had one for ages saying I smelt down below
Ugh! This is awful. He doesn't seem to recognize or care that you're a person, with feelings.
@whenitalkaboutsexnobodylistens Is it somehow funny?
These are not jokes. They really aren't.
Even if he thought repeatedly grabbing your breasts and telling you your vagina smells bad ( 
is he 12?) were funny jokes, he would have stopped the minute you said you didn't like it.
Oh hehehe my genitals smell bad that's so funny tell me another, you are hilarious.
"Boobies!"... in a Cookie Monster voice? Goddamn, that's enough to put anyone's sex drive in the deep freezer. What are you, his wet nurse-cum-slam-piece? 
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.