Sick of DH doing this

[RedAndYellowTulips]

About 6 months ago, DH, who has always done 'jokes' that only he thinks are funny, started to have a comical (in his opinion) obsession with my breasts.

Each time he walked up to me he'd keep grabbing my boobs, and it escalated to him grabbing them constantly and shouting 'boobies' in the way that the Cookie Monster says 'cookies'. I know this sounds ridiculous but it's the best way to describe it. He also does other stuff involving my breasts too, which I'm not going to describe as it's a total cliche thing that men do but he keeps doing it and I hate it.

If I wear anything that is remotely revealing he keeps saying 'boobies'. The other day I put on a bikini and sat in the garden and he came and sat in the garden too and kept saying 'boobies' and trying to grab them. In the end I went in and got changed as I just couldn't take it anymore.

It's starting to make me feel really dirty. I have in the past been sexually abused by a boyfriend in my early teens and it's making me feel so dirty because of that, I think. I've told DH time and time again that I hate it and not to do it but he says it's just a joke and that I've got no sense of humour.

I'm only a 32C BTW, not that it would make a difference to it being wrong if I had massive boobs but it's not like they're huge and in his fucking face all the time.

[hellsbellsmelons]

This is giving me the 'ick'
He would be binned off fast.
I am NOT tactile.
When I was OLD, I made it clear in my profile that if they were tactile they needed to swipe left!
I have small and very sensitive breasts.
If someone did this to me, my auto response would be to lash out.

Don't put up with this OP.
Imagine if you have DC and breastfeed.
It's actually making me feel quick sick thinking about it.

Take back your life.
Stop letting this fucking manchild sexually assault you.

[BayandBlonde]

I had an ex that used to do this, and grab my crotch too whilst making groaning noises. It just became unbearable to the point where I would just avoid being anywhere near him. I now hate being touched (and choose to be single because of this)

It took all my will not to punch the fucker in the face!

[Russellbrandshair]

He had one for ages saying I smelt down below, again when I didn't like his joke I had an attitude problem

Your husband is a revolting piece of shit. He has zero respect for you or for women in general. Part of me would like you to start making jokes about how small his dick is or how inadequate he is in bed just so he can see what it’s like. But you know what? Just get rid. He’s pathetic and misogynistic.

[Hailtomyteeth]

It's horrible, OP. You're being abused constantly. It will affect your mental health. Get out before he convinces you that you are less than human and depression sets in. This is a 'War on Women' thing, a means some men use to oppress women. It's not a joke.

[Goyle]

I can't believe a couple of posters here thinking that sexual assault is acceptable within a marriage.

[Wyntersdiary]

By him saying its a joke... he obviously thinks that he has the right to touch you as he is your partner. its a ridiculous thought.

No one has the right to touch you whenever they want or to have sex with you whenever they want . His jokes arnt funny and he isnt funny.

How annoying it would be to have a man CONSTANTLY touching your boobs .. they arnt toys Ughh

I would just leave , i cant be bothered by dickish behaviour.

[NinkiNonkiNikau]

He’s a dick

[SuperlativeScrubs]

Sexually assaulting you and then passing it off as a joke is incredibly controlling.

Can I ask OP are all his "jokes" centred around the intimate parts of your body or just your body in general? Is he targeting specific insecurities you have about yourself?

I would be questioning my relationship if my DH wouldn't listen when I asked him to stop something.

[Scrumpyjacks]

I personally would find this funny but I think that's because of the type of relationship me and dh have. However, I also know if I asked him to stop, dh would without a seconds thought and would apologise. The fact your husband hasn't respected you when you've voiced your feelings on it is bloody awful of him and yes, definitely reason to end the relationship.
In reality, it doesn't matter what the act itself is, if you arnt comfortable with it then it ends straight away, it doesn't continue on the basis that you have 'an attitude problem' (which you really really don't)

[ememem84]

One of dhs friends thought it was hilarious to do this to his gf me any other girl who was around. As a joke. Obviously “just a joke nonsense of humour”


He did it to me one too many times and I came prepared and asked him the capital of Thailand. Before he could answer I shouted “BANGCOCK!” And punched him in the crotch.

He never did it to me again. Funny how it wasn’t a hilarious joke then....

[SavannahCat]

Tell the trash to take itself out

[TheresABearInThere]

Is he mentally challenged? As he is either a loser, or 10 years old or a bit not quite right in the head. This is one of those LTB threads, no normal intelligent man behaves that way, it gives me the ick.

[BiblioX]

This is a disgusting man with a serious attitude problem to women. I would leave as quickly as you can, life is too short to be this disrespected in your own home.

[SionnachGlic]

OP...he is an arsehole & deserves all the PPs responses suggesting grabbing him by the balls & shouting 'raisins/ballies/nuts' at him like any time he is within arm's length.... see how he likes it & tell him he has no sense of humour if he expresses annoyance. Or just tell him he is abusive & leave him behind...you don't have to put up with that abuse.

[sweetieno]

@PenelopePitstop49

I'd suggest grabbing his balls really hard, squeezing and shouting "ballies" every time he walks past you.

I was about to suggest something along these lines.

[justilou1]

Grab his testicles and shout “raisins!” And laugh hysterically... when he has an issue, tell him he can’t take a joke. Fuckwit.

[Flamingnora123]

What a twat. I can't imagine he's great in any other areas given he's sexually assaulting you because he thinks it's funny. Anyone who finds your discomfort humorous needs to be told to fuck off permanently.

[Patsypie]

He sounds like a fucking nightmare! I would not tolerate this. Boobies and smells 'down there'?! Work out if you want to stay with this twat.

[RachelGreen45]

I’d make up my own joke about his micro penis! That or a nice subtle fuck offf right in the face! If he tells you your attitudes off tell him his jokes are shit and he’s boring!
He sounds like a right fucking pleb!

[Dontiknowit]

I find it very concerning that you describe his height and weight... are you afraid he might hurt you if you act towards him the way he does to you?

[FourDecades]

I am actually repulsed by this man.

[BurtsBeesKnees]

He sounds vile op. Absolutely vile. His behaviour is beyond wrong, so much so you have to go and get changed he makes you feel that uncomfortable. Urghh he sounds horrid and abusive

[Wondersense]

Also, how old is he? His behaviour is incredibly, cringeworthingly immature. You deserve so much better. xx

[user12699422578]

These aren't jokes, it's a catalogue of abuse.

[Wondersense]

'it's just a joke and that I've got no sense of humour.'

It might be a joke, and you might not have a sense of humour (doubtful)........but newsflash for him - it doesn't matter!!! Because this is not about HIM and what HE feels. It's about you! You've told him it makes you feel uncomfortable, and probably quite objectified I imagine, and he is seriously crossing the line.

One of his jokes is that you smell down below???? Dear oh dear. Does he get along with women generally? It sounds almost like he's treating you as a male mate, having blokey, insult bantz down the pub....all for a laff, innit?

It's ignorant, insensitive, and the touching thing is on the sexual abuse territory. There's nothing wrong with you. He's the utter idiot. The question is now what you do about it.